Posted in Encouragement

You Don’t Know Me, You Know OF Me…

“Ogres are like onions.  Onions have layers.  Ogres have layers…You get it?  We both have layers.” ~Shrek

People are like Ogres, we all have layers to our true selves.  A friend of mine, many years ago, made a statement to me when I said, “Trust me, I know you.”  She looked at me and said, “You don’t know me, you know Of me.” and I got it.  I agreed.  Each person in our lives see the person you are that matches best with their personality and interests.  It is not fake, at least for most, it is just a layer of their true essence.

I am a perfect example of being like an Ogre.  There are so many layers to my interests, I can find something in common with any person I come into contact with.  My Bestie always accuses me of changing who I am when it comes to men I am interested in.  I see why she says that, however, the man of the hour is going to see that part of me that shares similar interests.  Not fake, not changing me, just being another layer of me.  I do it with everyone, men, women, children, co-workers, friends, family, and strangers.  I am not afraid to expose my layers if it will bring some happiness, no matter how brief, into someone’s life.

After hearing the statement, “You don’t know me, you know of me,” I have kind of made it my mantra to those that like to think they truly know me.  Half the time, I wonder if I truly know myself, Dear Bloggites, let alone having someone else truly know me…LOL

I am a people person.  I have been told many times that there is just something about me that attracts all walks of life to me wherever I go.  I don’t get it, but I cannot disagree.  I love to people watch and I love to hear everyone’s story.  I love to validate that person’s life for the brief moment I get to share with them because in the end, that is all we want.  To be validated.  To believe that someone believes our life matters, to be a witness to our life we live.

People love to feel they belong and that they are thought of when they are not around.  Most people go through life without truly feeling that validation to their existence, and it hurts my heart.  Every life is precious.  Every story has meaning.  Every layer matters.

Embrace your UberOgre inside and be proud of those layers to your life.  It brings joy, not only to those you interact with, but to your true self.  If you have something you always wanted to try, do it.  Build those layers in your life because it will only make you richer.

~4-Ever, P

Posted in Book Review

Book Review: The Martian by Andy Weir

The Martian by Andy Weir“Yes, of course duct tape works in a near-vacuum.  Duct tape works anywhere.  Duct tape is magic and should be worshiped.” ~Mark Watney (in Andy Weir’s novel, The Martian)

This month’s book club novel is The Martian by Andy Weir.  As you know, Dear Bloggites, I love reading debut books from new authors.  Any Weir has a unique story about his novel.  He offered it for free for a while before deciding to sell it at the lowest cost on  Once readers from Amazon read the book, Andy Weir’s novel became a high demand item and even won an award from Amazon.

The book became so popular that the author was offered a movie deal and this movie is scheduled to be out in theaters on October 2nd.  I plan on watching the movie to see how well they follow the storyline.  Now, for my review. 🙂

The very first line caught my attention and (to me) was a genius move on Andy Weir’s part.  It immediately caught my attention.  It will catch anyone’s attention whether in a good way or a bad way, depending on if you find cuss words offensive.  However, this line worked.  I was immediately intrigued because I wanted to know why the statement was made and how it tied into the novel I had just started reading.  Kudos, Mr. Weir, Kudos.

As far as a first time novel goes, The Martian was written well.  Andy Weir has a back ground in science and has been fascinated by space all his life, so on occasion, the storyline would go into a lot of detail with several acronyms that may or may not have been explained at the time it was introduced into the storyline.  Like all new authors, Andy Weir, needs to learn who his audience is when writing his books.  Several times throughout the book, I felt that the author forgot his audience was writing to himself.

The storyline is genius.  When most people think of Martians they envision aliens invading Earth and attacking the human race.  Andy Weir turned that imagination around and made the human the invading species to a different planet, hence, the Martian (not to mention the storyline takes place on Mars…LOL).  It is this generation’s equivalent to the movie, Castaway, where we witness the challenges of one man thrown into a situation he never would have imagined could ever take place in his life.

One of the things I absolutely loved was the snarky, sarcastic personality of the character, Mark Watney.  I am a very sarcastic person and so I completely related to the character immediately.  I love reading books that I can personally relate to throughout a storyline.  There were several times throughout the novel that I was laughing out loud, literally, in my bed as I read this book!  I loved it! 😀

The vibe of the book was that of never letting a situation get the better of you.  The message was one of perseverance with a side of humor.  No matter what situation a person faces, they have a choice: make the best of it and overcome or allow the situation to get the best of them and give up.  I dig that.  I believe that vibe and live it daily.  The challenges faced in the book by the character make the reader think about how they would handle the challenge if they were in the situation that Mark Watney found himself in.  The book, The Martian, makes the reader think, “What if?” and that, Dear Bloggites, is the making of genius at work!  Andy Weir brings about a unique genius in his novel and I look forward to future works of art penned in his name. 🙂

I give The Martian by Andy Weir 4 out of 5 Bookmarks.   I recommend you read this book and if you feel up to it, go watch the movie when it comes out and compare the two.  That is what I am going to do.

Happy Reading, Dear Bloggites!

~4-Ever, P