Find T.R.U.S.T.: Truthful words, Rely on honesty, Understand circumstances, Share openly, Try empathy
How do you know if someone is trustworthy? Do you go by your gut instinct or by looks or by how they react to situations? I am a believer in gut instincts for the most part, but I never let my instinct get in the way of getting to know someone. In this installment of the ABCs of encouragement with the #BloggiteBits Campaign I am going to challenge you to Find T.R.U.S.T. in this world and others: Truthful words, Rely on honesty, Understand circumstances, Share openly, & Try empathy.
Truthful words: Words have an impact on every single person in this world. Be it positive or negative, those words are taken to heart and do impact the way a person views themselves or their lives. Even the toughest person can feel damaging effects from an ill spoken word. In order to find trust and build trust, you should always be cognizant of what you are saying to someone and how it is impacting their life. Speak truthful words to all you come in contact with, even if you are giving some kind of bad news, you can always say it in a way where it is not attacking the person you are telling. Be truthful with your words and always strive to use positive words over negative words.
Rely on honesty: Honesty is a key element to all relationships. As soon as dishonesty enters into a relationship, it begins to fester and form walls between the two parties. Rely on honest feedback from yourself and others when dealing with situations. Finding trust is hard for most people, even though they have a desire to trust, a person is more apt to shy away from someone once they find out they are being dishonest. If you stay honest to others, they can being to rely on you and as others are honest with you, you will begin to rely on them and your relationship.
Understand circumstances: One of the greatest gifts we can give each other is understanding. No one knows what you are going through in your life unless you share it with them. When someone trusts you enough to share their intimate parts of their life that are not so great, finding an understanding in their circumstances will strengthen your relationship with them. If you stop and take the time to understand the circumstances someone is going through, you will be able to adjust how you interact with them and what words you are going to say. Everyone needs and wants understanding.
Share openly: It is hard to open up to people, at least it is for most people. In order to find trust in relationships, you much be willing to share openly with others about your life, circumstances, and dreams. Do not be afraid to share with someone in an open, honest way. Even if they may not respond as you would like them to, sharing openly helps you to assess yourself and say, “I am worth getting to know and I am willing to risk the chance by being open.” Our default is to guard our hearts and thoughts when dealing with others, but allowing someone into your life and through the guards, you will help grow your relationship to the next level of finding trust. Share openly with others, you have a right to your opinions and feelings and taking that risk will be worth it in the end.
Try empathy: Empathy is different from sympathy. When you feel empathy, you are truly feeling and understanding that person’s emotions or experiences. Sympathy is just an understanding of a person’s feelings. When dealing with others, try to empathize with them on what they are going through. Not everyone experiences the same things, but everyone can find a similar situation that entails the same emotions. An empathetic person has a better understanding of what people are feeling. Finding trust is hard but when you find someone you can empathize with, it makes it easier to find trust in the relationship you have together.