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#BloggiteBits-Vibrant B.L.I.S.S.

Vibrant B.L.I.S.S.: Bright outlook, Lustrous confidence, Impassioned actions, Shiny soul, Spectacular demeanor

#BloggiteBits-Vibrant Bliss
Vibrant B.L.I.S.S.

I love vibrant things.  When I see something that just jumps out at me in a splash of color, I am captured and drawn into the world that harbors such beauty.  We all have our own splash of color we show in our daily lives.  A vibrant, blissful life can come naturally for some but for others, it is much harder and they have to work toward it each day.  In this installment of the ABCs of encouragement with the #BloggiteBits Campaign, I am going to give you some pointers on how to show your personal colors in a Vibrant B.L.I.S.S. for others to see: Bright outlook, Lustrous confidence, Impassioned actions, Shiny soul, & Spectacular demeanor.

Bright outlook: Having a bright outlook can be hard at times, however, if you strive to always find the good in each situation, you will find that your outlook is not so bleak.  To find your bright outlook, take each challenge you face and find the bright side to it.  If you work on looking for the bright side, you will eventually make it a habit and then it will become an automatic increase in your splash of color that shows for the world to see.

Lustrous confidence: A lustrous confidence is not about trying to be sexy, it is about having a brilliant confidence for the world to see.  Finding your confidence in yourself will immediately impact your splash of color in your life.  To find your lustrous confidence, you just have to embrace challenges as they come and have a “go-getter” attitude in all things you.

Impassioned actions: Impassioned actions are actions you do or show which cause people to take notice.  To find your impassioned actions, you have to stop going through life just existing, it dulls your splash of color.  If you choose to go through life showing the passion for each action you partake in, your splash of color in life will become a blinding, vibrant bliss for the world to enjoy.

Shiny soul: A shiny soul is a soul that never stops finding happiness in the world.  If you are just going through the motions of everyday life, your soul will become dull and tarnished.  To find your shiny soul, engage in your everyday life, it will keep your soul shiny and vibrantly, blissful.  A shiny soul is guaranteed to make your splash of color in life one that would make even the most beautiful butterflies jealous.

Spectacular demeanor: A spectacular demeanor is one that is larger than life when dealing with others.  To find your spectacular demeanor, make sure to always treat others with the utmost respect and manners.  No one likes to engage a rude, hateful person.  To brighten your splash of color in your vibrantly blissful life, always show manners and respect toward others, whether they deserve it (in your eyes) or not.  Finding a person with respectful manners is rare in this day and age.  Show off your vibrant bliss in life by always showing your spectacular demeanor.

~4-Ever, P

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#BloggiteBits-Uplift B.E.A.U.T.I.F.U.L.

Uplift B.E.A.U.T.I.F.U.L.: Brainy, Encouraging, Adventurous, Unconditional, Talented, Individual, Funny, Unashamed, Likeable

#BloggiteBits-Uplift Beautiful
Uplift B.E.A.U.T.I.F.U.L.

We have all heard the saying “beauty is in the eye of the beholder” but how many realize their own beauty within?  In a world where beauty is worshiped as if it were a god, people have a hard time seeing what a beautiful person they truly are within.  In this installment of the ABCs of encouragement with the #BloggiteBits Campaign, I am going to talk about your internal beauty and encourage you to Uplift B.E.A.U.T.I.F.U.L. in your mind and realize your own internal beauty: Brainy, Encouraging, Adventurous, Unconditional, Talented, Individual, Funny, Unashamed, & Likeable.

Brainy: Nothing screams beautiful than a person with a keen intellect.  I am not talking about Pulitzer Prize intellect, but someone who actually uses their brain for good interactions with others.  Being brainy and showing it to the world makes for a beautiful mind and people stop and notice it.  Celebrate cerebral communication, it is rare to find and when you do find it, be sure to embrace and uplift the person who owns that mind.

Encouraging: How many of you turn away from someone who encourages you?  No ONE!  Internal beauty is found when you are encouraging others.  Too often people get so caught up in everyday life, they forget to stop and thank the person who helps encourage them to achieve the next level of them.  Being encouraging, people will see the beauty inside.  If you come across that encouraging beauty in another, be sure to uplift their beautiful mind.

Adventurous: We all love an adventure.  No matter how large or small the adventure may be, embrace your adventurous side and let your beauty shine.  Being adventurous allows others to see the fun side of your mind.  Adventure is meant to be shared with others, however, finding the adventure in all your situations will shine through to others.  When you share your adventurous side, others will uplift your beautiful, fun side that shines through.

Unconditional: An unconditional mind is a terrible thing to waste.  Finding someone who gives of themselves unconditionally is a true beauty, indeed.  When you are interacting with others, ask yourself if you are helping in an unconditional mindset or if you are expecting something in return.  Finding an unconditional person is truly worthy of uplifting the beautiful mind inside.

Talented: A talented mind is a beautiful thing.  A person who uses their creativity to envision various different scenarios and play them out in their heads when faced with a challenge is an amazing person.  Use your talented mind to find various different ways to approach a situation and you will see that others will realize your worth.  They will uplift your beautifully talented mind and turn to you for more assistance when needed.

Individual: Be different.  Having an individual mindset will help you stand out in a crowd.  Instead of being a worker bee mindlessly doing something, be a butterfly and spread your wings and dance on the wind.  In order to uplift your beautiful mind, you need to be willing to go against the grain and do your own thing.  People will take notice and will follow your lead.

Funny: A funny mind is a beautiful mind.  Life is taken way too seriously these days.  Gone are the days of old when you did not have to worry about what you say will be taken the wrong way and out of context.  Finding a funny mindset is like finding a diamond in a coal mine.  Being funny will help uplift your beautiful for all to see.

Unashamed: Be unashamed of who you are and how you think.  Finding your inner beauty means you know who you are and accept it, flaws and all.  Do not apologize for who you are or how you think.  You have a right to think the way you do and being unashamed of yourself helps uplift your beautiful mind and soul.

Likeable: Being likeable is a good thing.  Did you know that just because someone is good does not mean they are likeable?  It is true.  Being a likeable person means that you automatically make people feel at ease as soon as you walk into a room.  Having a likeable mind means that you have an ability to put people at ease with just a single word.  People will uplift your beautiful mind when they realized what a treasured gift you have in being likable.

~4-Ever, P

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#BloggiteBits-Tranquil W.O.R.L.D.

Tranquil W.O.R.L.D.: Wistfully serene, One with peace, Restful nature, Leisurely style, Deliberate calmness

#BloggiteBits-Tranquil World
Tranquil W.O.R.L.D.

Calm is the Heart, Tranquil is the Mind.  I love this statement.  It is my saying I tell myself every morning when I wake up to start my day.  This world is so hectic and go, go, go all the time, I have to make myself remember that I am in control of my world.  In this installment of the ABCs of encouragement with the #BloggiteBits Campaign, I am going to tell you how I choose to live in my Tranquil W.O.R.L.D. while life rushes all around me: Wistfully serene, One with peace, Restful nature, Leisurely style, & Deliberate calmness.

Wistfully serene: Wistful.  Such a wonderful word that is hardly ever heard of now.  Serene, just saying the word and you can feel the tranquility overcome you.  When I wake up in the morning, I remind myself that there is only so much I have control over that happens throughout the day and I need to accept the things I have no control over.  I also remind myself that putting my mind in a wistfully serene mode when faced with things out of my control will help me keep control over my responses.  This little exercise goes a long way in assuring I maintain a tranquil world.  Try some of your own personal encouraging mantras when you wake up and see how it affects your day.

One with peace: Peace.  We all preach “let there be peace in the world” but how many of you allow yourself to be one with peace in your personal life?  Each day I remind myself that I will intentionally keep myself one with peace.  I say intentionally because peace has to be intentional.  People default to defense when faced with things that make them feel uncomfortable, so in order to fight that default you have to intentionally channel the peace within.  I am not going to lie, Dear Bloggites, it is a challenge for me to channel my inner peace when I have to deal with the personal challenges that are surrounding my life with my loved ones, but I do make it a point.  Funny, I find it easier to become one with peace than I do raging against the disease, but it can be challenging.  I do not let it stop me, I always find that peace in the end and my tranquil world is once again in my control.

Restful nature: Restful.  Having a tranquil world helps you have a restful nature, however, having a restful nature will improve your tranquil world.  I know, strange statement; but basically, a restful nature and a tranquil world go hand-in-hand.  If you find you are restless, try and do something that will help you relax.  Reading is a good go-to for me when I feel restless.  I have many things around me that I can pick up and do in order to regain my restful nature.  Make a list of things that you know relaxes you and try and surround yourself with a few, if not all, of these things to turn to on bad days.

Leisurely style: Leisure.  Most of us tend to go all out from the moment we wake up until we go back to bed.  A tranquil world needs a leisurely style from you each day.  My leisurely style time is late at night once I go to my bedroom.  I am a very active person mentally and slowing my mind down to a leisurely pace is hard.  I make sure to unplug from the world once I go to my bedroom and allow my mind to decompress either by reading or listening to a good book.  As my mind focuses on the story unfolding, it begins to slow down to my leisurely style of thinking.  Find your leisurely style to tap into each day, it will help your tranquil world to flow over you.

Deliberate calmness: Calm.  Just saying the word out loud relaxes me.  Like peace, calmness requires a deliberate, intentional mental act on your part.  To find your tranquil world, you need to embrace a deliberate calmness when life throws those screw balls at you.  Each day, before I walk into a new situation, I take a deep breath and let it out slowly while mentally calming my mind and body down.  I do this from the simple act of shopping in a store (which I do not like to do) to walking into the latest visit to my Paternal Half’s (Dad’s/Dah’s) Oncologist’s office.  It only takes a moment to find your deliberate calmness each time and you will find your tranquil world waiting for you.

~4-Ever, P

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#BloggiteBits-Sufficient W.O.R.T.H.

Sufficient W.O.R.T.H.: Well-balanced, Objective, Reasonable, Thoughtful, Honorable

#BloggiteBits-Sufficient Worth
Sufficient W.O.R.T.H.

How many of you have ever felt you were unworthy of something?  How many times were you told you worth was not important?  I am here to tell you, these two things are wrong and your worth is absolutely important.  You are important to all those who know and love you.  Never accept the statements of being unworthy.  In this installment of the ABCs of encouragement with the #BloggiteBits Campaign, I am going to help you see you have Sufficient W.O.R.T.H. in the eyes of those who know you: Well-balanced, Objective, Reasonable, Thoughtful, & Honorable.

Well-balanced: Sufficient worth contains several elements.  I am going to touch on five of them here.  The first one is being well-balanced.  It is hard to juggle all the different balls we have to work with each day.  Finding a balance seems impossible, however, to feel a sense of self-worth, you need to figure out a way to find the balance.   It might mean reassessing commitments and determine which need to go and which need to stay.  No one likes to disappoint people when they are asked to do something, but having sufficient worth in your life means you know the art of saying no.

Objective: A second element of sufficient worth is being objective.  Having an ability to look at situations from all points of view with no bias is a special trait.  When you go through life, be sure to have an objective outlook when faced with a decision or situation.  Your self-worth will become much stronger if you know that your decision process is free of bias and solely based on facts.

Reasonable: A third element of sufficient worth is being reasonable.  Reasonability is becoming a trait of the past.  When facing all situations in life, keeping your wits about you and addressing all things in a reasonable manner will help your self-worth soar on a daily basis.

Thoughtful: The fourth element of sufficient worth is being thoughtful.  Going through life in a thoughtful manner will help prevent you from rash responses when faced with challenges.  Being thoughtful in your deeds not only helps your self-worth, but it helps people stay at ease as well.

Honorable: The fifth and final element of sufficient worth is that of being honorable.  Think of someone you trust completely.  Does that person act honorable toward others?  Being an honorable person means you show utmost respect to all you come in contact with and never cause them to question your intentions.  Acting in an honorable manner will help you stand out among others and that knowledge will help your self-worth grow by leaps and bounds.

~4-Ever, P

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#BloggiteBits-Rejuvenate F.A.N.C.Y.

Rejuvenate F.A.N.C.Y.: Fantasy escape, Atmospheric retreat, Neurological refresh, Conscious cleanse, Yearn deeply

#BloggiteBits-Rejuvinate Fancy
Rejuvenate F.A.N.C.Y.

Life is too serious.  People have forgotten how to decompress, unplug, and reconnect with themselves.  In this installment of the ABCs of encouragement with the #BloggiteBits Campaign, I am going to suggest some mental release and help you Rejuvenate F.A.N.C.Y. in your mind and life: Fantasy escape, Atmospheric retreat, Neurological refresh, Conscious cleanse, & Yearn deeply.

Fantasy escape: Taking a break from all the demands and seriousness of life is hard.  Your mind needs a reset and one great way to refresh it is to create a fantasy escape for you to go to mentally when life gets to be too much.  I am not talking about anything erotic (unless that’s your thing, I don’t judge 😉 ), what I am talking about is creating a mental escape that will help you relax and decompress.  Your fantasy escape is yours and yours alone.  Everyone is different.  My fantasy escape is imagining myself in a secluded log cabin that faces a lake.  In my fantasy, I imagine myself sitting on my comfy chair in front of the fire reading a good book with a glass of wine on the table and classical music playing in the background.  When I feel too overwhelmed, I just close my eyes for a few minutes and imagine my fantasy escape and just let my body release everything and allow my mind to reset.  Create your own fantasy escape and go to it regularly to keep your mind fresh and clear.

Atmospheric retreat: Another great mind reset is an atmospheric retreat.  This type of retreat is good for your overall well-being as well as your mind.  An atmospheric retreat is where you adjust your environment to help you find the mental and physical comfort of the highest order.  You have all heard the saying “remove yourself from the situation” before, Dear Bloggites.  An atmospherics retreat goes along those lines.  It is a location you have chosen and set up for your own personal escape.  One atmospheric retreat I have is in my bedroom.  From the bedding on the bed to the colors throughout the room, I immediately find my mind and body begin to relax as soon as I walk into the room.  Create your own personal atmospheric retreat that you can go to for immediate reset of the mind and body as soon as you enter into the space.

Neurological refresh: Finding ways to decompress is necessary for all of us.  If we were unable to relax and clear the mind we would all go crazy.  A good mental release you can do to decompress is a neurological refresh.  A neurological refresh is a simple task of changing focus from a stressful demand to something entertaining for the mind.  An entertaining mind refresh is something you enjoy doing.  My neurological refresh I like to do is read a good book.  When I delve into a good book, my mind is able to break away from those stressful demands and enter into the world found in the pages of the book.  Figure out your own neurological refresh, be it reading, watching TV, or going for a walk.  Make sure to allow time to create a mind reset by engaging in your personal neurological refresh.

Conscious cleanse: A conscious cleanse is good for a mind reset.  When you feel overwhelmed by the many decisions you make throughout the day, your mind becomes cluttered and in need for freedom of any decisions for a moment.  A conscious cleanse is just that.  Imagine soft drops falling over your mind washing away all the clutter in the mind.  Even though our minds stay active, you can take a moment and think of nothing.  Sounds funny, but figuring out a technique that can cleanse your conscious to just a blank slate will do wonders for your overall mental health which in turn makes your mind stronger to deal with everyday decisions.

Yearn deeply: As children, we knew the joy of longing and yearning for things we desired.  As adults, we do not find joy in longing and yearning.  Why is that?  Yearning deeply helps us tap into the recesses of our minds.  These recesses help open up our mind’s ability to imagine the unimaginable for our lives.  A final mental reset to utilize when life gets too serious is to yearn deeply for something you desire to do.  Tapping into those deep recesses gives your mind a break from the demands of life and begin to find that joy we used to feel as children.

~4-Ever, P

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#BloggiteBits-Quality F.R.I.E.N.D.

Quality F.R.I.E.N.D.: Faithful, Respectful, Intuitive, Entertaining, Nice, Daring

#BloggiteBits-Quality Friend
Quality F.R.I.E.N.D.

How many of you have had friends who seem to only be there for you when you are going strong in your life?  How many of those friends are nowhere to be seen when times get tough?  We have all suffered from “friends” like that, you know the ones, Dear Bloggites.  The “friends” who are smiling to your face while stabbing you in the back once you turn.  These friends are called (appropriately so) frenemies.  Have you ever questioned if you are being a good enough friend to those you care about?  In this installment of the ABCs of encouragement with the #BloggiteBits Campaign, I am going to cover some constant traits of a Quality F.R.I.E.N.D. and help you understand what those traits do to the ones you care about: Faithful, Respectful, Intuitive, Entertaining, Nice, & Daring.

Faithful: Being a quality friend means you are faithful to the friendship.  Faithful is not in the sense of faithful boyfriend/girlfriend but it is faithful meaning always being there for that person.  A faithful friend will always drop what they are doing when you truly need them in time of crisis as well as in time of celebration.  If you strive to be a quality friend, assess your faithful quality toward those you care about and make it a point to be there when you are needed no matter how much life tries to get in the way.

Respectful: Being a quality friend also means you are respectful to your friends.  We all like to get snarky and tease one another, heck, that is what a friendship is about, but even through all the teasing and sarcastic comments, be sure your words still hold that respectful tone.  Everyone wants to be respected and you should always respect others, especially those you claim to care about.  Watch your tones when talking to your friends and be sure to always show that respect no matter what you say and do toward them.

Intuitive: Being a quality friend brings a sense of intuition to the relationship.  Being intuitive does not mean you are reading their minds, it means you are fully aware of your friend and can read when something is wrong without a word being spoken.  As you build your relationships, the ability to be intuitive to those people will grow.  Make sure you truly look at your friends when you first engage them and allow your intuition to kick in and assess their overall appearance and attend to any needs you sense.

Entertaining: Being a quality friend has its trait of entertainment.  How many have you come into contact with that seems to not have any joy or interest in having fun?  Being a quality friend, you bring the entertaining aspect to the relationship.  There are times for seriousness and there are times for entertainment and even in moments of seriousness, you might find the need for entertaining your friend just the right medicine to bring the serious level down.

Nice: Being a quality friend means you should always be nice to those you care about.  Sounds really simple, but do you know how rare it is to find someone who is genuinely nice?  Very rare in this age of the ‘me’ mentality and where being rude and disrespectful is the norm.  If you desire to truly be a quality friend, be sure to be nice to your friends.  Honestly ask them how they are doing and mean it by listening to them and engaging in their life.

Daring: Being a quality friend means you should bring the element of daring to the relationship.  Being daring does not mean doing stupid stuff, it just means look for stuff to do that you would not normally do.  If neither one of you are outdoorsy, plan a hike or a horseback riding day.  Daring does not mean dangerous, it just means find the unusual element of fun for the two of you to experience during your time together.

~4-Ever, P

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#BloggiteBits-Persistent A.R.D.O.R.

Persistent A.R.D.O.R.: Adamant pursuit, Rigorous search, Determined success, Observe results, Reflective thoughts

#BloggiteBits-Persistent Ardor
Persistent A.R.D.O.R.

Persistent or annoying?  I believe that if you desire to achieve something, having strong persistence is only a plus factor in achieving that goal that is desired.  In this installment of the ABCs of encouragement with the #BloggiteBits Campaign, I am going to give you some pointers on living life with Persistent A.R.D.O.R. and achieving those goals you set in all aspects of your life: Adamant pursuit, Rigorous search, Determined success, Observe results, & Reflective thoughts.

Adamant pursuit: Achieving goals in life is something you have to commit to on a regular basis.  Having an adamant pursuit of your goals in life will help you stay focused and keep your dreams alive until the goal is reached.  Living life with persistent ardor keeps the goal in front of you as you go through life.

Rigorous search: Goals require a determined person who will rigorously search for the next step along the way when achieving something.  Rigorous searching does not mean you have to chase things erratically, it just means that you will always look for the next minor step in the ultimate big picture of the desired goal.

Determined success: Determination is the one item that separates the people who achieve their goals and those who do not.  Have a determined success mentality will get you that much closer to reaching your goal.  This pointer goes along the lines of that saying we all know so well, “Well begun is half done.”  Having a determination that you will be successful in achieving your goal puts you way ahead of the game.

Observe results: Observing results as you reach each minor step along your journey to the ultimate goal will help you adjust to how to pursue the next minor step.  Observation is key in all situations, especially ones that deal with reaching your goals.

Reflective thoughts: On your journey to the ultimate big picture goal, be sure to have reflective thoughts on each little success as you complete one minor step toward your goal.  Reflection is good for the mind and soul.  Reflective thoughts help you appreciate what you have accomplished as well as what you will accomplish.  Envisioning the success of reaching your goal goes a long way toward truly achieve it.

~4-Ever, P