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#BloggiteBits-Joyful M.I.N.D.

Joyful M.I.N.D.: Master positive thoughts, Inner peace with oneself, Nourish the brain, Delight in life

#BloggiteBits-Joyful Mind
Joyful M.I.N.D.

The mind is a terrible thing to waste, would you agree, Dear Bloggites?  Have you ever noticed that negative thoughts waste away your mind and in turn waste away your joy and happiness with life?  The things you allow to fester in your mind and thoughts tend to come out in all aspects of your life.  Negative thoughts and mindset cause a person to respond to people and things in a negative way.  The reverse is also true, positive thoughts and mindset cause a person to respond to people and things in a positive way.  In this installment of the ABCs of encouragement with the #BloggiteBits Campaign, I am going to give you some tips on how to have a Joyful M.I.N.D. which will change your mindset to the positive each day: Master positive thoughts, Inner peace with oneself, Nourish the brain, & Delight in life.

Master positive thoughts: In order to have a joyful mind, you need to master the art of positive thinking.  This is a hard thing to do for some because it is always easiest to focus on the negative, but if you intentionally force yourself to throw out those negative thoughts and immediately find something positive in a situation, you will begin to master the art of positive thinking.  If you train yourself to master positive thoughts you will find that your outlook will be much more hopeful and joyful.  Train your mind to find the positive in every situation and you will train yourself to be a positive person.

Inner peace with oneself: Believe it or not, most people are not comfortable in their own skin and mind.  There is so much busyness in the world that people have not learned to be comfortable with oneself in the quiet moments.  Find ways and techniques to learn to have inner peace with oneself and you will find that life does not seem so bleak.  Having inner peace helps settle your mind and when your mind is settled you are able to allow joy to enter in.  How wonderful to find joy just from finding a way to be comfortable in your own skin and mind.

Nourish the brain: Nourishing the brain is when you feed your thoughts only with positive, happy information.  I love scary movies and books (hello, Stephen King is my favorite author), however, the thoughts I allow to enter into my mind are only positive, life affirming ones.  You are worthy of self-affirmation and you should strive to nourish the brain with thoughts that bring joy into your mind.  Remember, just like a body that thrives on healthy, good foods, your mind also thrives on healthy, good thoughts.

Delight in life: I give you permission to say, “Realistic living be damned!” and instead say, “I will delight in my dreams and imagination through life!”  Delight in all that life throws at you, be it good or bad, you can always find that quirky, silver lining that will bring you joy.  People think that when they “grow up” they have to shed all their childhood wonderment they found in life.  I am telling you today, you do not have to lose that childhood wonderment that brought joy to your life.  Finding the delightful things in your everyday life will bring joy to your mind, body, and soul.

~4-Ever, P

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#BloggiteBits-Imagine M.O.R.E.

Imagine M.O.R.E.: Meaningful encounters, Optimal communication, Reaction impaction, Extraordinary relationships

#BloggiteBits-Imagine More
Imagine M.O.R.E.

We all desire to be the person that can walk into a room and carry on a conversation with whomever you walk by.  Not just the standard fluff of weather talk, but an actual conversation that helps each person feel connect for a short time with the person they are talking with.  I believe everyone is capable of doing this with some simple things to keep in mind.  In this installment of the ABCs of encouragement with the #BloggiteBits Campaign, I want you to Imagine M.O.R.E. for yourself when it comes to conversations and the gift of gab:  Meaningful encounters, Optimal communication, Reaction impaction, & Extraordinary relationships.

Meaningful encounters: When you engage in meaningful encounters with others, you find more satisfaction from just a regular passing conversation and it will help you imagine more levels of communication than just the one you are used to.  Engaging others with conversations that are about a topic or topics near and dear to you or those takes that conversation to a higher plane on the communication grid.  When you come into contact with someone, ask a few simple questions to get an understanding of where the person is at and what they hold dear to them.  If they tell you a topic you know, GREAT; begin to engage in a great give and take conversation.  If they tell you about a topic you are unfamiliar with, GREAT; ask them questions.  Allow them to share their passion for that topic.  This will open them up to you and make them feel validated as a person with thoughts and you will feel more open just by seeing how their inner fire is ignited on a topic they are passionate about.

Optimal communication: Did you know that communication has different levels: boring, tolerable, okay, good, and optimal.  Yes, I made these levels up, but they help me imagine more on the communication grid.  These levels are real to me and all levels are obtainable when I am communicating with others.  Optimal communication is when the passion is ignited within you and the person you are talking with about a topic or topics.  Think about when you are talking to someone.  How would you rate the last conversation you had with someone?  Was it a conversation you were fully engaged in or was it so boring that you really do not even remember what you talked about?  When you find a common ground with someone on a topic or topics, you will become more interested in what the person is saying to you and when the topic is something you are passionate about, you become fully engaged in the conversation.  This is how optimal communication is achieved.  Find common ground topics to discuss each time you have an opportunity to carry on a conversation, it will bring your conversation to a higher plane.

Reaction impaction: I love this simple phrase: reaction impaction.  In order to imagine more on your communication grid, you need to become aware of the reaction impaction you and the person you are talking to have during the conversation.  A reaction impaction is what happens when you do not guard your facial expressions as well as your instinctive words of defense if you are in an uncomfortable conversation.  To bring your communication to a higher plane with others, start to become aware of how you are feeling and what you are thinking when listening to someone.  Your thoughts and feelings do show on your face even if you do not realize it and if the reaction impaction is positive then the person will become more engaged in the conversation with you, however, if the reaction impaction is neutral or negative, the person will become uncomfortable with the conversation and will quickly look to end it or find a different topic to discuss.  Negative reaction impactions leave bad tastes in a person’s mouth as well as may affect their outlook for the rest of the day.  Positive reaction impaction leaves a happy feeling and will also affect a person’s outlook for the rest of the day, but in a good way.

Extraordinary relationships: We all would love to experience an extraordinary relationship at least once in our life.  Having an extraordinary relationship with others is dependent upon you imagining more when you encounter them.  Extraordinary relationships take work and practice to obtain in your life.  If you are aware of how you are communicating with others and make it a point to leave the people feeling excited and fulfilled after a conversation with you, you will begin to cultivate extraordinary relationships one person at a time.  Cultivating relationships by always striving to take your communication to a higher plane will help you feel as if you are impacting the people you come into contact with on a daily basis.  Not only will you help others feel better and help improve their daily outlook, you will also see, by cultivating extraordinary relationships, that your daily outlook is also experiencing positive results.

~4-Ever, P

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#BloggiteBits-Happy H.E.A.R.T.

Happy H.E.A.R.T.: Humble appreciation, Experience new things, Accept others, Reach goals, Transform your thinking

#BloggiteBits-Happy Heart
Happy H.E.A.R.T.

Are you happy where you are in life?  Does your heart feel full of love and appreciation?  Your heart mood determines your overall outlook, did you know that?  In this installment of the ABCs of encouragement with the #BloggiteBits Campaign, I am going to help you understand exactly what a heart mood is and help you find your Happy H.E.A.R.T. which will improve your overall outlook in life: Humble appreciation, Experience new things, Accept others, Reach goals, & Transform your thinking.

Humble appreciation: Your heart mood is the driving force behind your emotional state when dealing with others.  Having a humble appreciate for everything you have in your life is one step in having a happy heart each day.  Many people feel they are entitled to things without working for it and so their hearts lack any humble humility.  These entitled people are hard to get along with because they treat everyone as if they are beneath them.  Humbling oneself and learning to have an appreciation for all the things in your life, from the little to the big, you will find that your heart mood is more pliable and willing to have understanding for others.

Experience new things: As a lifelong learner, I am all for experiencing new things.  Your heart mood is more playful and insightful when you are engaging in new things to experience.  Everyone enjoys learning new things, especially if it is something they pick themselves.  Experiencing new things helps keep the heart happy and feeling playful and light.  We all feel successful when we learn a new activity.  Those who stay in a routine that never changes feel stagnant and bored.  The heart does not thrive in a stagnant environment.  Go out and challenge yourself by experiencing new things, you will find that your heart will feel better.

Accept others: Accepting others is a challenge for many.  We have become a skeptical, guarded society and that mental environment makes it hard to accept others.  When you begin to accept others, your heart mood will start changing in a more positive, happy way.  Releasing yourself to open up and accept others helps lift an unseen burden this world has programmed us with.  Break through the standard mentality and take a chance, your heart will be happier for it.

Reach goals: We have all experienced the feeling of accomplishment when we reach some long goal set for ourselves.  Reach for goals in life.  You will find that working toward a goal will help you find a purpose to get up and move in the morning.  A happy heart loves to feel the accomplishment of reaching a planned goal.  The goals do not always have to be big.  Reaching for smaller, more obtainable goals will continue to keep your heart mood overflowing with successful accomplishments.

Transform your thinking: Transforming your thinking means break away from the status quo thinking.  Stop the skeptical, guarded thinking and start looking at the world with the eyes of a babe, full of wonderment and joy.  When you transform your thinking your heart will feel much more open to opportunities which in turn make your heart feel happy.  Look to each new day as an opportunity to discover new and exciting things.  I promise your transformed thinking will open up a whole new world.

~4-Ever, P

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#BloggiteBits-Give H.O.P.E.

Give H.O.P.E.: Have a loving heart, Offer encouragement, Praise successes, Empower a belief in others

#BloggiteBits-Give Hope
Give H.O.P.E.

Do you sometimes feel this world can beat down a person enough that they lose hope?  Do you find yourself wishing that sometimes, instead of all the negativity being spewed forth to people, someone would break through with some kind of encouraging information that gives you hope in the future?  Did you realize that you can do your part to help others find hope?  In this installment of the ABCs of encouragement with the #BloggiteBits Campaign, I want to encourage you to Give H.O.P.E. to others: Have a loving heart, Offer encouragement, Praise successes, & Empower a belief in others.

Have a loving heart: One of the things lacking in this world is a loving heart toward others.  People are so quick to harden their hearts toward that which they do not understand that they do not realize that they may be missing out on one of the greatest relationships that enter into their life.  A good way to help in the fight against the negativity in this world is to have a loving heart toward others.  When you come into contact with someone that, on the surface, seems like you have nothing in common with, instead of closing off your heart and turning away from that person, open up your loving heart and make an effort to get to know the person.    I guarantee you, Dear Bloggites, you will find at least one thing in common with that person and that one thing can grow into so much more for both of you.  When I am walking around and see someone struggling, I go to them and ask if there is anything I can do even if it is just providing an ear willing to listen to their plight.  By doing this simple act, I am giving them hope by showing a loving heart to them.  Giving hope to someone is as simple as having an open, loving heart and making an effort to learn who they are and what they are about.

Offer encouragement: This world is such a ‘me’ society that people do not stop to think of offering an encouraging word to someone else.  A second way you can give hope to someone is to offer simple words of encouragement.  When you are walking down the street or through a store and you see someone, say a simple, “Hello! I hope your day turns into the wonderful day you hoped it would be.”  Cheesy, maybe; but I do this on a regular basis and it is amazing to watch people just stop and stare at me as I continue to walk on.  I also notice they turn with a little smile on their face and go about their day.  THAT makes my day!  I believe I can change the world one person at a time and I know you can too!  Give hope to the next random person you see.  Put your own splash of energy and life into it and watch how that offer of encouragement turns into a small ripple effect that will flow out into the world.  Yeah, offering encouragement is a big way to give hope to someone.

Praise successes: Think back on a time when you did something that brought you praise from another, even if it was just a simple, “Atta Boy!” praise.  How did it make you feel?  Pretty good, right?  Now, think back on the last time you gave praise to someone.  Did you struggle with finding the last time you did it?  Most people will struggle to think back on the last praise they gave to someone.  Don’t feel bad, it is all part of the ‘me’ society we live in.  Remember how good you felt when you received praise and make an effort to praise someone’s successes so they can feel just as good as you did.  I take great pleasure in seeing other’s succeed.  I am usually the biggest cheerleader out there for people and their successes.  Seeing people feel pride in an accomplishment they worked hard for and watching their happiness overflow from the praise they received gives me great joy.  Make an effort to praise successes in others, no matter how big or small, your praise will go a long way in giving hope to people in this world.

Empower a belief in others: Empower others with a belief in themselves is hard to do in this negative world we live in.  People get so beat down with negativity that they have a hard time realizing they have a right to believe in themselves.  Showing others you believe in them will help empower them to believe in their abilities to succeed in life.  I always try to let people know I believe in them and the task they are trying to accomplish.  I feel by doing all the things above: have a loving heart, offer encouragement, and praise successes, it all helps a person empower a belief internally that will validate my belief in them.  Make an effort to empower others with belief, that belief helps give hope to a person that changes them internally which will show externally to the world around them.

~4-Ever, P