Xenophile C.O.U.R.T.E.S.Y.: Civil, Obliging, Urbanity, Refined, Tactful, Elegant, Suave, Yes-Minded
Xenophile means “a person who is attracted to foreign peoples, cultures, or customs” (dictionary.com). In this installment of the ABCs of encouragement with the #BloggiteBits Campaign, I am going to focus on Xenophile C.O.U.R.T.E.S.Y. and give some examples from different cultures on how they show courtesy to others: Civil, Obliging, Urbanity, Refined, Tactful, Elegant, Suave, & Yes-Minded.
Civil: When I think of England, one of the first things that pop into my mind (aside from the awesome humor they have) is the fact that they are so civil to each other, even if two enemies cross each other’s path, they are cordial and it amazes me. Embrace the ability to be civil to one another, no matter how you feel about them personally, if you make it a point to be civil, it will make the interaction go much smoother and faster.
Obliging: When I think of China, one of the first things that pops into my mind is their traditional customs of respect. Respect is shown to others by obliging their place in the world. If a younger lady comes across an elder, she will bow out of respect in her greeting of the elder. Having an obliging spirit toward others does not mean you let them walk all over you, it means to just respect their existence and the knowledge they bring to the table. You may be surprised to learn something new from the most unlikely of people.
Urbanity: When I think of France, one of the first things that pops into my mind (aside from great wine and cheese) is their sense of urbanity toward each other. Showing a respectful social attitude gives of an urban feel to a person. Showing respectful social interactions will show your urbanity to others. You will be amazed at how people you come into contact with on a social level will mimic your actions.
Refined: When I think of Egypt, one of the first things that pops into my head (aside from their amazing pyramids and hieroglyphics) is how refined they are as a society. Egyptians have a respect for how their ancestors lived and have refined the customs handed down from generation to generation. Conducting yourself in a refined manner will help you react in an even temperament with others.
Tactful: When I think of Denmark, one of the first things that pop into my mind is their tactful way of correcting someone who is “not playing by the rules” of society. If someone sees another acting improperly, they will immediately admonish that person in a tactful way. Strive to show tact in all you say and do to others. People will respond to honest tact if it is given properly.
Elegant: When I think of Morocco, one of the first things that pop into my mind is how elegant they are in their interactions with others. Moroccans have an internal elegance in all they do and when they are communicating to others, that elegance shows. Find your elegant calm by not reacting instinctively to situations. Addressing others in an elegant manner will help ease any tensions that are showing and allow a fluid, peaceful communication to follow.
Suave: When I think of Italy, one of the first things that pop into my mind (and witness in my family) is how suave an Italian acts. Bella Figura, beautiful figure / good image, is important to Italians. Having and showing respect is important. When engaging with others, the suave nature comes out and the recipients take notice. Act in a suave, charming manner and you will be treated the same.
Yes-Minded: When I think of Taiwan, one of the first things that pop into my mind is their unified mindset. Taiwanese are very group oriented, whether it is family or friends, they always find a way to compromise until there is a yes-minded factor in the entire group. Strive to always compromise and find the yes-minded medium for all people you engage with. You will be impressed at how easy it will be for all parties to obtain the yes-minded compromise.