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#BloggiteBits-Zesty E.M.O.T.I.O.N.

Zesty E.M.O.T.I.O.N.: Exuberant, Mesmerizing, Opinionated, Tantalizing, Interesting, Overzealous, Nonconformist
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Zesty E.M.O.T.I.O.N.

Most people do not associate the word ‘zesty’ with emotions, however, I believe there are times where we all experience a form of emotions that seem zesty and exciting.  In the final installment of the ABCs of encouragement with the #BloggiteBits Campaign, I am going to share with you a few words that truly express a Zesty E.M.O.T.I.O.N. and how you can incorporate these emotions into your daily life: Exuberant, Mesmerizing, Opinionated, Tantalizing, Interesting, Overzealous, & Nonconformist.

 

Exuberant: Having an exuberant emotion is something most people experience but think it is something else.  Whenever you are feeling extraordinarily happy about something, you are feeling an exuberant emotion.  Sharing your exuberance with others will only help them tap into their personal exuberant emotion.  Exuberance is a bit like a sneeze, once one person does it/shows it more follow suit.

Mesmerizing: Everyone has experienced a mesmerizing person at least once in their lifetime.  That person that you cannot stop watching or listening to is exuding a mesmerizing emotion to you.  Having a mesmerizing emotion is something you do not really notice (some of you might) because it is more of the impact you have on others versus you intentionally showing an emotion.  You can share your mesmerizing emotion by simply taking in your surroundings, assessing the situation, and sharing your ideas on how to proceed or correct the problem.  A take charge person exudes a mesmerizing emotion for others to see.

Opinionated: Everyone is opinionated.  You cannot deny this fact of being opinionated because the denial in itself is an opinion of yours.  There is a big difference with being opinionated and being judgmental.  Sharing your opinions should always be done in a respectful manner.  A proper opinionated emotion is shared by keeping your tone respectful, providing facts that support your opinion, and above all, share with an open-mind to be able to hear the differing opinions others have and find a compromise.

Tantalizing: Having a tantalizing emotion means you find intrigue in the simplest of things and help others find the intrigue as well.  When you share something that provokes an interest in something, you are expressing a tantalizing emotion for others to see and embrace.  Be sure to always share things that challenge others to think outside the box and venture into the realm of possibility even if it may seem impossible.

Interesting: Having an interesting emotion means you cause others to engage in a curiosity of what you are discussing.  Interesting emotions work similarly to the mesmerizing emotion, your words and actions cause others to pause and take notice.  Always try to engage others with an interesting emotion because it brings about a melding of minds to dream of something more.

Overzealous: An overzealous emotion is one that shows your eagerness and enthusiasm for something or someone.  Bring that overzealous emotion into all that you do will bring more joy and passion back into your life.  Share with others your passions and happiness about things in your life and in turn ask them about theirs.  Soon you will both experience the overzealous emotion in your lives.

Nonconformist: Having a nonconformist emotion in life means you dance to the beat of your own drum.  You do not just follow others blindly in life.  You keep your independent thinking while listening to others.  Share your nonconformist emotion by always questioning the status quo and be sure to gather all known information before accepting something as truth or facts.  The world will be a better place when you use your nonconformist emotion with all things in life.

~4-Ever, P

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#BloggiteBits-Young D.E.S.I.R.E.

Young D.E.S.I.R.E.: Devoted time, Eager to please, Special feelings, Intense reaction, Reverent acts, Enthusiastic love
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#BloggiteBits-Young Desire
Young D.E.S.I.R.E.

Oh to be young and foolish again.  Or not.  Being young has its good and bad sides.  The good: youth, energy, physical fitness, and an inconsequential mind of death.  The bad: inexperience, naivety of the world, reckless, and an inconsequential mind to death.  In this installment of the ABCs of encouragement with the #BloggiteBits Campaign, I am going to help you tap into the good parts of Young D.E.S.I.R.E. to bring some of the wonders of youth back into your life: Devoted time, Eager to please, Special feelings, Intense reaction, Reverent acts, & Enthusiastic love.

 
Devoted time: Think back, Dear Bloggites, to your youth (for some not too long ago for others it may seem like a lifetime ago).  Are you there?  Remember when you could devote your time to whatever you were currently interested in?  Be it school, family, relationships, friendships, you were able to provide total devoted time to the interest.  To tap back into your young desire for life, you just have to give your all into whatever activity you are interested in.  If you have a busy life (like most of us), look over your schedule and find a time each day to devote to the passion of choice you are currently involved in.  You will find that allowing yourself time to chase your dreams and passions, you will have a much lighter and stronger desire to embrace life.
 
Eager to please: Remember a moment in your youth where you were smitten with the puppy love that only the young experience?  That eager to please mentality found during the “puppy love” stage in relationships is actually a good thing.  Busy lives (like we all have) tend to prevent you from really getting outside yourself and into the world of others.  To tap back into your young desire and eagerness to please others, all you have to do is respond to someone in a positive way when they ask you for help or even a simple question.  Being eager to please does not mean you allow yourself to be walked all over or taken advantage of by others, it just means you show an eagerness to make someone’s day a little better by providing a simple act of kindness or service.  You will find your outlook on life begin to show a positive view on your day to day activities.
 
Special feelings: The giddiness, the joy, the butterflies, and anticipation of seeing your special someone you had a crush on when you were younger-sweet feelings, indeed!  Most people do not feel that carefree giddiness of emotions as adults, but I challenge you to reach deep inside your soul and reawaken that special feeling again.  To tap back into your special feelings, you just need to remind yourself of the good qualities of the person or people you are interacting with daily.  There is a reason you have the people you have in your life and I bet it is because of some special quality that caused your feelings to attach to each person individually.  Make an effort to focus on the special qualities of each person you are blessed to come into contact with.  Life is a gift to all of us and you will find that your view of people will be less tarnished when you actively look for the special quality of each person.
 
Intense reaction: “Shock! Thrill! Oh MY!” fills your senses throughout your body as a younger you feels that first intense reaction to someone or something.  Oh, beloved youth of yesteryear, wherever have you gone.  Nothing beats the thrill of feeling such strong, overpowering emotions that an intense reaction provides a person.  I am not just referencing a physical attraction sensation, I am referencing the sensations that course through our mind and bodies when dealing with people or situations.  Intense reactions can be a wide range of feelings.  No matter what those feelings were when you were younger, they had an impact in your life.  To tap back into your wide range of intense reactions, you just need to open up your emotional floodgate and feel each sensation.  I am sure the emotional sensations that show up are the ones we usually stomp down as we grow older: awe, joy, giddiness, appreciation, love, hope…all these positive emotions are sadly repressed as a person grows up and has to “act like an adult” in life.  Embrace those long forgotten intense reactions and be prepared to embrace a freer-feeling you.
 
Reverent acts: Reverent acts sound so serious, however, a reverent act as a young child is that of a child believing their parents are all powerful and nothing can defeat them.  I am sure you can think back on a time when you witnessed something spectacular that a parent or grandparent did.  That feeling of overwhelming love and admiration washed over you and you looked at the person who caused those emotions as if they were a fairy tale hero come to life.  The pure intellectual honesty you felt as a child is where you felt the emotions stirred by the reverent acts you witnessed.  To tap back into your reverent acts mentality, you have to open yourself up to the pure intellectual honesty and begin to see all the everyday heroes inside the people you interact with daily.
 
Enthusiastic love: Enthusiastic love was the giddy joy you felt as a child when a person you were enamored with talked to you.  Did you know, Dear Bloggites, that there is a mature kind of enthusiastic love?  Well there is.  To tap back into your mature enthusiastic love, you just have to add a little rose-colored glasses to your mind’s eye when dealing with others.  The mature enthusiastic love is the ability to embrace someone else’s success as if it was your own.  I am a firm believer that we should always build each person we engage with up to help them reach the next level of them on their journey in life.
~4-Ever, P
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#BloggiteBits-Xenophile C.O.U.R.T.E.S.Y.

Xenophile C.O.U.R.T.E.S.Y.: Civil, Obliging, Urbanity, Refined, Tactful, Elegant, Suave, Yes-Minded

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Xenophile C.O.U.R.T.E.S.Y.

Xenophile means “a person who is attracted to foreign peoples, cultures, or customs” (dictionary.com).   In this installment of the ABCs of encouragement with the #BloggiteBits Campaign, I am going to focus on Xenophile C.O.U.R.T.E.S.Y. and give some examples from different cultures on how they show courtesy to others: Civil, Obliging, Urbanity, Refined, Tactful, Elegant, Suave, & Yes-Minded.

Civil: When I think of England, one of the first things that pop into my mind (aside from the awesome humor they have) is the fact that they are so civil to each other, even if two enemies cross each other’s path, they are cordial and it amazes me.  Embrace the ability to be civil to one another, no matter how you feel about them personally, if you make it a point to be civil, it will make the interaction go much smoother and faster.

Obliging: When I think of China, one of the first things that pops into my mind is their traditional customs of respect.  Respect is shown to others by obliging their place in the world.  If a younger lady comes across an elder, she will bow out of respect in her greeting of the elder.  Having an obliging spirit toward others does not mean you let them walk all over you, it means to just respect their existence and the knowledge they bring to the table.  You may be surprised to learn something new from the most unlikely of people.

Urbanity: When I think of France, one of the first things that pops into my mind (aside from great wine and cheese) is their sense of urbanity toward each other.  Showing a respectful social attitude gives of an urban feel to a person.  Showing respectful social interactions will show your urbanity to others.  You will be amazed at how people you come into contact with on a social level will mimic your actions.

Refined: When I think of Egypt, one of the first things that pops into my head (aside from their amazing pyramids and hieroglyphics) is how refined they are as a society.  Egyptians have a respect for how their ancestors lived and have refined the customs handed down from generation to generation.  Conducting yourself in a refined manner will help you react in an even temperament with others. 

Tactful: When I think of Denmark, one of the first things that pop into my mind is their tactful way of correcting someone who is “not playing by the rules” of society.  If someone sees another acting improperly, they will immediately admonish that person in a tactful way.  Strive to show tact in all you say and do to others.  People will respond to honest tact if it is given properly.

Elegant: When I think of Morocco, one of the first things that pop into my mind is how elegant they are in their interactions with others.  Moroccans have an internal elegance in all they do and when they are communicating to others, that elegance shows.  Find your elegant calm by not reacting instinctively to situations.  Addressing others in an elegant manner will help ease any tensions that are showing and allow a fluid, peaceful communication to follow.

Suave: When I think of Italy, one of the first things that pop into my mind (and witness in my family) is how suave an Italian acts.  Bella Figura, beautiful figure / good image, is important to Italians.  Having and showing respect is important.  When engaging with others, the suave nature comes out and the recipients take notice.  Act in a suave, charming manner and you will be treated the same.

Yes-Minded: When I think of Taiwan, one of the first things that pop into my mind is their unified mindset.  Taiwanese are very group oriented, whether it is family or friends, they always find a way to compromise until there is a yes-minded factor in the entire group.  Strive to always compromise and find the yes-minded medium for all people you engage with.  You will be impressed at how easy it will be for all parties to obtain the yes-minded compromise. 

~4-Ever, P

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#BloggiteBits-Wonderful C.H.E.E.R.

Wonderful C.H.E.E.R.: Charming smile, Helpful mindset, Elated happiness, Ecstatic energy, Radiant demeanor

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Wonderful C.H.E.E.R.

The wonders of a cheerful personality, can you just imagine, Dear Bloggites?  I love the quote from Anne Frank in the picture above.  Your attitude helps shape your world and the world around you.  In one of the final installments of the ABCs of encouragement with the #BloggiteBits Campaign, I am going to help you find your Wonderful C.H.E.E.R. in the world: Charming smile, Helpful mindset, Elated happiness, Ecstatic energy, & Radiant demeanor.

Charming smile: A charming smile goes a long way to improving your mood.  If you force yourself to smile throughout the day, your mood will be altered for the better and as you continue to consciously smile when engaging others, you will find that it becomes easier and easier.  The result from others, as well as yourself, for your charming smile: better attitude, relaxed feeling, and better communication.

Helpful mindset: A helpful mindset is one you should start embracing.  In this society of distrust, finding a desire to be helpful is hard.  Consciously deciding to help at least one person each day will go a long way on helping yourself and your disposition.  People who give of themselves at times usually have a happier, cheerful life versus those who do not do anything for others, or when they have to, grumble about it.  The result from others, as well as yourself, for your helpful mindset: comfort in your life and mind, better appreciation, and internal happiness.

Elated happiness: An elated happiness is something internal you begin to feel as you embrace the steps above.  Allowing yourself to have an elated happiness becomes clear to others you encounter.  When your happiness is showing and overflowing you will see a difference in how you treat others and how they treat you.  The result from others, as well as yourself, for your elated happiness: internal joy, better treatment, and willingness to compromise.

Ecstatic energy: An ecstatic energy is similar to the elated happiness item.  Having an ecstatic energy will help invigorate your mind and imagination.  Invigorating your mind and imagination will allow you to dream and achieve goals you have for yourself.  The result from others, as well as yourself, for your ecstatic energy: achieving goals, creating new projects, and desiring to reach for the stars.

Radiant demeanor: A radiant demeanor is something that is seen from the outside world that is showing internally inside you.  When you have a radiant demeanor, you are willing to embrace others’ ideas and suggestions as well as others having a desire to embrace your ideas and suggestions.  The result from others, as well as yourself, for your radiant demeanor: Collaboration on ideas, cohesive work environment, and joy in yourself and others.

~4-Ever, P

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#BloggiteBits-Vibrant B.L.I.S.S.

Vibrant B.L.I.S.S.: Bright outlook, Lustrous confidence, Impassioned actions, Shiny soul, Spectacular demeanor

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Vibrant B.L.I.S.S.

I love vibrant things.  When I see something that just jumps out at me in a splash of color, I am captured and drawn into the world that harbors such beauty.  We all have our own splash of color we show in our daily lives.  A vibrant, blissful life can come naturally for some but for others, it is much harder and they have to work toward it each day.  In this installment of the ABCs of encouragement with the #BloggiteBits Campaign, I am going to give you some pointers on how to show your personal colors in a Vibrant B.L.I.S.S. for others to see: Bright outlook, Lustrous confidence, Impassioned actions, Shiny soul, & Spectacular demeanor.

Bright outlook: Having a bright outlook can be hard at times, however, if you strive to always find the good in each situation, you will find that your outlook is not so bleak.  To find your bright outlook, take each challenge you face and find the bright side to it.  If you work on looking for the bright side, you will eventually make it a habit and then it will become an automatic increase in your splash of color that shows for the world to see.

Lustrous confidence: A lustrous confidence is not about trying to be sexy, it is about having a brilliant confidence for the world to see.  Finding your confidence in yourself will immediately impact your splash of color in your life.  To find your lustrous confidence, you just have to embrace challenges as they come and have a “go-getter” attitude in all things you.

Impassioned actions: Impassioned actions are actions you do or show which cause people to take notice.  To find your impassioned actions, you have to stop going through life just existing, it dulls your splash of color.  If you choose to go through life showing the passion for each action you partake in, your splash of color in life will become a blinding, vibrant bliss for the world to enjoy.

Shiny soul: A shiny soul is a soul that never stops finding happiness in the world.  If you are just going through the motions of everyday life, your soul will become dull and tarnished.  To find your shiny soul, engage in your everyday life, it will keep your soul shiny and vibrantly, blissful.  A shiny soul is guaranteed to make your splash of color in life one that would make even the most beautiful butterflies jealous.

Spectacular demeanor: A spectacular demeanor is one that is larger than life when dealing with others.  To find your spectacular demeanor, make sure to always treat others with the utmost respect and manners.  No one likes to engage a rude, hateful person.  To brighten your splash of color in your vibrantly blissful life, always show manners and respect toward others, whether they deserve it (in your eyes) or not.  Finding a person with respectful manners is rare in this day and age.  Show off your vibrant bliss in life by always showing your spectacular demeanor.

~4-Ever, P

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#BloggiteBits-Uplift B.E.A.U.T.I.F.U.L.

Uplift B.E.A.U.T.I.F.U.L.: Brainy, Encouraging, Adventurous, Unconditional, Talented, Individual, Funny, Unashamed, Likeable

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Uplift B.E.A.U.T.I.F.U.L.

We have all heard the saying “beauty is in the eye of the beholder” but how many realize their own beauty within?  In a world where beauty is worshiped as if it were a god, people have a hard time seeing what a beautiful person they truly are within.  In this installment of the ABCs of encouragement with the #BloggiteBits Campaign, I am going to talk about your internal beauty and encourage you to Uplift B.E.A.U.T.I.F.U.L. in your mind and realize your own internal beauty: Brainy, Encouraging, Adventurous, Unconditional, Talented, Individual, Funny, Unashamed, & Likeable.

Brainy: Nothing screams beautiful than a person with a keen intellect.  I am not talking about Pulitzer Prize intellect, but someone who actually uses their brain for good interactions with others.  Being brainy and showing it to the world makes for a beautiful mind and people stop and notice it.  Celebrate cerebral communication, it is rare to find and when you do find it, be sure to embrace and uplift the person who owns that mind.

Encouraging: How many of you turn away from someone who encourages you?  No ONE!  Internal beauty is found when you are encouraging others.  Too often people get so caught up in everyday life, they forget to stop and thank the person who helps encourage them to achieve the next level of them.  Being encouraging, people will see the beauty inside.  If you come across that encouraging beauty in another, be sure to uplift their beautiful mind.

Adventurous: We all love an adventure.  No matter how large or small the adventure may be, embrace your adventurous side and let your beauty shine.  Being adventurous allows others to see the fun side of your mind.  Adventure is meant to be shared with others, however, finding the adventure in all your situations will shine through to others.  When you share your adventurous side, others will uplift your beautiful, fun side that shines through.

Unconditional: An unconditional mind is a terrible thing to waste.  Finding someone who gives of themselves unconditionally is a true beauty, indeed.  When you are interacting with others, ask yourself if you are helping in an unconditional mindset or if you are expecting something in return.  Finding an unconditional person is truly worthy of uplifting the beautiful mind inside.

Talented: A talented mind is a beautiful thing.  A person who uses their creativity to envision various different scenarios and play them out in their heads when faced with a challenge is an amazing person.  Use your talented mind to find various different ways to approach a situation and you will see that others will realize your worth.  They will uplift your beautifully talented mind and turn to you for more assistance when needed.

Individual: Be different.  Having an individual mindset will help you stand out in a crowd.  Instead of being a worker bee mindlessly doing something, be a butterfly and spread your wings and dance on the wind.  In order to uplift your beautiful mind, you need to be willing to go against the grain and do your own thing.  People will take notice and will follow your lead.

Funny: A funny mind is a beautiful mind.  Life is taken way too seriously these days.  Gone are the days of old when you did not have to worry about what you say will be taken the wrong way and out of context.  Finding a funny mindset is like finding a diamond in a coal mine.  Being funny will help uplift your beautiful for all to see.

Unashamed: Be unashamed of who you are and how you think.  Finding your inner beauty means you know who you are and accept it, flaws and all.  Do not apologize for who you are or how you think.  You have a right to think the way you do and being unashamed of yourself helps uplift your beautiful mind and soul.

Likeable: Being likeable is a good thing.  Did you know that just because someone is good does not mean they are likeable?  It is true.  Being a likeable person means that you automatically make people feel at ease as soon as you walk into a room.  Having a likeable mind means that you have an ability to put people at ease with just a single word.  People will uplift your beautiful mind when they realized what a treasured gift you have in being likable.

~4-Ever, P

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#BloggiteBits-Tranquil W.O.R.L.D.

Tranquil W.O.R.L.D.: Wistfully serene, One with peace, Restful nature, Leisurely style, Deliberate calmness

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Tranquil W.O.R.L.D.

Calm is the Heart, Tranquil is the Mind.  I love this statement.  It is my saying I tell myself every morning when I wake up to start my day.  This world is so hectic and go, go, go all the time, I have to make myself remember that I am in control of my world.  In this installment of the ABCs of encouragement with the #BloggiteBits Campaign, I am going to tell you how I choose to live in my Tranquil W.O.R.L.D. while life rushes all around me: Wistfully serene, One with peace, Restful nature, Leisurely style, & Deliberate calmness.

Wistfully serene: Wistful.  Such a wonderful word that is hardly ever heard of now.  Serene, just saying the word and you can feel the tranquility overcome you.  When I wake up in the morning, I remind myself that there is only so much I have control over that happens throughout the day and I need to accept the things I have no control over.  I also remind myself that putting my mind in a wistfully serene mode when faced with things out of my control will help me keep control over my responses.  This little exercise goes a long way in assuring I maintain a tranquil world.  Try some of your own personal encouraging mantras when you wake up and see how it affects your day.

One with peace: Peace.  We all preach “let there be peace in the world” but how many of you allow yourself to be one with peace in your personal life?  Each day I remind myself that I will intentionally keep myself one with peace.  I say intentionally because peace has to be intentional.  People default to defense when faced with things that make them feel uncomfortable, so in order to fight that default you have to intentionally channel the peace within.  I am not going to lie, Dear Bloggites, it is a challenge for me to channel my inner peace when I have to deal with the personal challenges that are surrounding my life with my loved ones, but I do make it a point.  Funny, I find it easier to become one with peace than I do raging against the disease, but it can be challenging.  I do not let it stop me, I always find that peace in the end and my tranquil world is once again in my control.

Restful nature: Restful.  Having a tranquil world helps you have a restful nature, however, having a restful nature will improve your tranquil world.  I know, strange statement; but basically, a restful nature and a tranquil world go hand-in-hand.  If you find you are restless, try and do something that will help you relax.  Reading is a good go-to for me when I feel restless.  I have many things around me that I can pick up and do in order to regain my restful nature.  Make a list of things that you know relaxes you and try and surround yourself with a few, if not all, of these things to turn to on bad days.

Leisurely style: Leisure.  Most of us tend to go all out from the moment we wake up until we go back to bed.  A tranquil world needs a leisurely style from you each day.  My leisurely style time is late at night once I go to my bedroom.  I am a very active person mentally and slowing my mind down to a leisurely pace is hard.  I make sure to unplug from the world once I go to my bedroom and allow my mind to decompress either by reading or listening to a good book.  As my mind focuses on the story unfolding, it begins to slow down to my leisurely style of thinking.  Find your leisurely style to tap into each day, it will help your tranquil world to flow over you.

Deliberate calmness: Calm.  Just saying the word out loud relaxes me.  Like peace, calmness requires a deliberate, intentional mental act on your part.  To find your tranquil world, you need to embrace a deliberate calmness when life throws those screw balls at you.  Each day, before I walk into a new situation, I take a deep breath and let it out slowly while mentally calming my mind and body down.  I do this from the simple act of shopping in a store (which I do not like to do) to walking into the latest visit to my Paternal Half’s (Dad’s/Dah’s) Oncologist’s office.  It only takes a moment to find your deliberate calmness each time and you will find your tranquil world waiting for you.

~4-Ever, P

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#BloggiteBits-Sufficient W.O.R.T.H.

Sufficient W.O.R.T.H.: Well-balanced, Objective, Reasonable, Thoughtful, Honorable

#BloggiteBits-Sufficient Worth
Sufficient W.O.R.T.H.

How many of you have ever felt you were unworthy of something?  How many times were you told you worth was not important?  I am here to tell you, these two things are wrong and your worth is absolutely important.  You are important to all those who know and love you.  Never accept the statements of being unworthy.  In this installment of the ABCs of encouragement with the #BloggiteBits Campaign, I am going to help you see you have Sufficient W.O.R.T.H. in the eyes of those who know you: Well-balanced, Objective, Reasonable, Thoughtful, & Honorable.

Well-balanced: Sufficient worth contains several elements.  I am going to touch on five of them here.  The first one is being well-balanced.  It is hard to juggle all the different balls we have to work with each day.  Finding a balance seems impossible, however, to feel a sense of self-worth, you need to figure out a way to find the balance.   It might mean reassessing commitments and determine which need to go and which need to stay.  No one likes to disappoint people when they are asked to do something, but having sufficient worth in your life means you know the art of saying no.

Objective: A second element of sufficient worth is being objective.  Having an ability to look at situations from all points of view with no bias is a special trait.  When you go through life, be sure to have an objective outlook when faced with a decision or situation.  Your self-worth will become much stronger if you know that your decision process is free of bias and solely based on facts.

Reasonable: A third element of sufficient worth is being reasonable.  Reasonability is becoming a trait of the past.  When facing all situations in life, keeping your wits about you and addressing all things in a reasonable manner will help your self-worth soar on a daily basis.

Thoughtful: The fourth element of sufficient worth is being thoughtful.  Going through life in a thoughtful manner will help prevent you from rash responses when faced with challenges.  Being thoughtful in your deeds not only helps your self-worth, but it helps people stay at ease as well.

Honorable: The fifth and final element of sufficient worth is that of being honorable.  Think of someone you trust completely.  Does that person act honorable toward others?  Being an honorable person means you show utmost respect to all you come in contact with and never cause them to question your intentions.  Acting in an honorable manner will help you stand out among others and that knowledge will help your self-worth grow by leaps and bounds.

~4-Ever, P

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#BloggiteBits-Rejuvenate F.A.N.C.Y.

Rejuvenate F.A.N.C.Y.: Fantasy escape, Atmospheric retreat, Neurological refresh, Conscious cleanse, Yearn deeply

#BloggiteBits-Rejuvinate Fancy
Rejuvenate F.A.N.C.Y.

Life is too serious.  People have forgotten how to decompress, unplug, and reconnect with themselves.  In this installment of the ABCs of encouragement with the #BloggiteBits Campaign, I am going to suggest some mental release and help you Rejuvenate F.A.N.C.Y. in your mind and life: Fantasy escape, Atmospheric retreat, Neurological refresh, Conscious cleanse, & Yearn deeply.

Fantasy escape: Taking a break from all the demands and seriousness of life is hard.  Your mind needs a reset and one great way to refresh it is to create a fantasy escape for you to go to mentally when life gets to be too much.  I am not talking about anything erotic (unless that’s your thing, I don’t judge 😉 ), what I am talking about is creating a mental escape that will help you relax and decompress.  Your fantasy escape is yours and yours alone.  Everyone is different.  My fantasy escape is imagining myself in a secluded log cabin that faces a lake.  In my fantasy, I imagine myself sitting on my comfy chair in front of the fire reading a good book with a glass of wine on the table and classical music playing in the background.  When I feel too overwhelmed, I just close my eyes for a few minutes and imagine my fantasy escape and just let my body release everything and allow my mind to reset.  Create your own fantasy escape and go to it regularly to keep your mind fresh and clear.

Atmospheric retreat: Another great mind reset is an atmospheric retreat.  This type of retreat is good for your overall well-being as well as your mind.  An atmospheric retreat is where you adjust your environment to help you find the mental and physical comfort of the highest order.  You have all heard the saying “remove yourself from the situation” before, Dear Bloggites.  An atmospherics retreat goes along those lines.  It is a location you have chosen and set up for your own personal escape.  One atmospheric retreat I have is in my bedroom.  From the bedding on the bed to the colors throughout the room, I immediately find my mind and body begin to relax as soon as I walk into the room.  Create your own personal atmospheric retreat that you can go to for immediate reset of the mind and body as soon as you enter into the space.

Neurological refresh: Finding ways to decompress is necessary for all of us.  If we were unable to relax and clear the mind we would all go crazy.  A good mental release you can do to decompress is a neurological refresh.  A neurological refresh is a simple task of changing focus from a stressful demand to something entertaining for the mind.  An entertaining mind refresh is something you enjoy doing.  My neurological refresh I like to do is read a good book.  When I delve into a good book, my mind is able to break away from those stressful demands and enter into the world found in the pages of the book.  Figure out your own neurological refresh, be it reading, watching TV, or going for a walk.  Make sure to allow time to create a mind reset by engaging in your personal neurological refresh.

Conscious cleanse: A conscious cleanse is good for a mind reset.  When you feel overwhelmed by the many decisions you make throughout the day, your mind becomes cluttered and in need for freedom of any decisions for a moment.  A conscious cleanse is just that.  Imagine soft drops falling over your mind washing away all the clutter in the mind.  Even though our minds stay active, you can take a moment and think of nothing.  Sounds funny, but figuring out a technique that can cleanse your conscious to just a blank slate will do wonders for your overall mental health which in turn makes your mind stronger to deal with everyday decisions.

Yearn deeply: As children, we knew the joy of longing and yearning for things we desired.  As adults, we do not find joy in longing and yearning.  Why is that?  Yearning deeply helps us tap into the recesses of our minds.  These recesses help open up our mind’s ability to imagine the unimaginable for our lives.  A final mental reset to utilize when life gets too serious is to yearn deeply for something you desire to do.  Tapping into those deep recesses gives your mind a break from the demands of life and begin to find that joy we used to feel as children.

~4-Ever, P

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Quality F.R.I.E.N.D.: Faithful, Respectful, Intuitive, Entertaining, Nice, Daring

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Quality F.R.I.E.N.D.

How many of you have had friends who seem to only be there for you when you are going strong in your life?  How many of those friends are nowhere to be seen when times get tough?  We have all suffered from “friends” like that, you know the ones, Dear Bloggites.  The “friends” who are smiling to your face while stabbing you in the back once you turn.  These friends are called (appropriately so) frenemies.  Have you ever questioned if you are being a good enough friend to those you care about?  In this installment of the ABCs of encouragement with the #BloggiteBits Campaign, I am going to cover some constant traits of a Quality F.R.I.E.N.D. and help you understand what those traits do to the ones you care about: Faithful, Respectful, Intuitive, Entertaining, Nice, & Daring.

Faithful: Being a quality friend means you are faithful to the friendship.  Faithful is not in the sense of faithful boyfriend/girlfriend but it is faithful meaning always being there for that person.  A faithful friend will always drop what they are doing when you truly need them in time of crisis as well as in time of celebration.  If you strive to be a quality friend, assess your faithful quality toward those you care about and make it a point to be there when you are needed no matter how much life tries to get in the way.

Respectful: Being a quality friend also means you are respectful to your friends.  We all like to get snarky and tease one another, heck, that is what a friendship is about, but even through all the teasing and sarcastic comments, be sure your words still hold that respectful tone.  Everyone wants to be respected and you should always respect others, especially those you claim to care about.  Watch your tones when talking to your friends and be sure to always show that respect no matter what you say and do toward them.

Intuitive: Being a quality friend brings a sense of intuition to the relationship.  Being intuitive does not mean you are reading their minds, it means you are fully aware of your friend and can read when something is wrong without a word being spoken.  As you build your relationships, the ability to be intuitive to those people will grow.  Make sure you truly look at your friends when you first engage them and allow your intuition to kick in and assess their overall appearance and attend to any needs you sense.

Entertaining: Being a quality friend has its trait of entertainment.  How many have you come into contact with that seems to not have any joy or interest in having fun?  Being a quality friend, you bring the entertaining aspect to the relationship.  There are times for seriousness and there are times for entertainment and even in moments of seriousness, you might find the need for entertaining your friend just the right medicine to bring the serious level down.

Nice: Being a quality friend means you should always be nice to those you care about.  Sounds really simple, but do you know how rare it is to find someone who is genuinely nice?  Very rare in this age of the ‘me’ mentality and where being rude and disrespectful is the norm.  If you desire to truly be a quality friend, be sure to be nice to your friends.  Honestly ask them how they are doing and mean it by listening to them and engaging in their life.

Daring: Being a quality friend means you should bring the element of daring to the relationship.  Being daring does not mean doing stupid stuff, it just means look for stuff to do that you would not normally do.  If neither one of you are outdoorsy, plan a hike or a horseback riding day.  Daring does not mean dangerous, it just means find the unusual element of fun for the two of you to experience during your time together.

~4-Ever, P