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#BloggiteBits-Sufficient W.O.R.T.H.

Sufficient W.O.R.T.H.: Well-balanced, Objective, Reasonable, Thoughtful, Honorable

#BloggiteBits-Sufficient Worth
Sufficient W.O.R.T.H.

How many of you have ever felt you were unworthy of something?  How many times were you told you worth was not important?  I am here to tell you, these two things are wrong and your worth is absolutely important.  You are important to all those who know and love you.  Never accept the statements of being unworthy.  In this installment of the ABCs of encouragement with the #BloggiteBits Campaign, I am going to help you see you have Sufficient W.O.R.T.H. in the eyes of those who know you: Well-balanced, Objective, Reasonable, Thoughtful, & Honorable.

Well-balanced: Sufficient worth contains several elements.  I am going to touch on five of them here.  The first one is being well-balanced.  It is hard to juggle all the different balls we have to work with each day.  Finding a balance seems impossible, however, to feel a sense of self-worth, you need to figure out a way to find the balance.   It might mean reassessing commitments and determine which need to go and which need to stay.  No one likes to disappoint people when they are asked to do something, but having sufficient worth in your life means you know the art of saying no.

Objective: A second element of sufficient worth is being objective.  Having an ability to look at situations from all points of view with no bias is a special trait.  When you go through life, be sure to have an objective outlook when faced with a decision or situation.  Your self-worth will become much stronger if you know that your decision process is free of bias and solely based on facts.

Reasonable: A third element of sufficient worth is being reasonable.  Reasonability is becoming a trait of the past.  When facing all situations in life, keeping your wits about you and addressing all things in a reasonable manner will help your self-worth soar on a daily basis.

Thoughtful: The fourth element of sufficient worth is being thoughtful.  Going through life in a thoughtful manner will help prevent you from rash responses when faced with challenges.  Being thoughtful in your deeds not only helps your self-worth, but it helps people stay at ease as well.

Honorable: The fifth and final element of sufficient worth is that of being honorable.  Think of someone you trust completely.  Does that person act honorable toward others?  Being an honorable person means you show utmost respect to all you come in contact with and never cause them to question your intentions.  Acting in an honorable manner will help you stand out among others and that knowledge will help your self-worth grow by leaps and bounds.

~4-Ever, P

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#BloggiteBits-Rejuvenate F.A.N.C.Y.

Rejuvenate F.A.N.C.Y.: Fantasy escape, Atmospheric retreat, Neurological refresh, Conscious cleanse, Yearn deeply

#BloggiteBits-Rejuvinate Fancy
Rejuvenate F.A.N.C.Y.

Life is too serious.  People have forgotten how to decompress, unplug, and reconnect with themselves.  In this installment of the ABCs of encouragement with the #BloggiteBits Campaign, I am going to suggest some mental release and help you Rejuvenate F.A.N.C.Y. in your mind and life: Fantasy escape, Atmospheric retreat, Neurological refresh, Conscious cleanse, & Yearn deeply.

Fantasy escape: Taking a break from all the demands and seriousness of life is hard.  Your mind needs a reset and one great way to refresh it is to create a fantasy escape for you to go to mentally when life gets to be too much.  I am not talking about anything erotic (unless that’s your thing, I don’t judge 😉 ), what I am talking about is creating a mental escape that will help you relax and decompress.  Your fantasy escape is yours and yours alone.  Everyone is different.  My fantasy escape is imagining myself in a secluded log cabin that faces a lake.  In my fantasy, I imagine myself sitting on my comfy chair in front of the fire reading a good book with a glass of wine on the table and classical music playing in the background.  When I feel too overwhelmed, I just close my eyes for a few minutes and imagine my fantasy escape and just let my body release everything and allow my mind to reset.  Create your own fantasy escape and go to it regularly to keep your mind fresh and clear.

Atmospheric retreat: Another great mind reset is an atmospheric retreat.  This type of retreat is good for your overall well-being as well as your mind.  An atmospheric retreat is where you adjust your environment to help you find the mental and physical comfort of the highest order.  You have all heard the saying “remove yourself from the situation” before, Dear Bloggites.  An atmospherics retreat goes along those lines.  It is a location you have chosen and set up for your own personal escape.  One atmospheric retreat I have is in my bedroom.  From the bedding on the bed to the colors throughout the room, I immediately find my mind and body begin to relax as soon as I walk into the room.  Create your own personal atmospheric retreat that you can go to for immediate reset of the mind and body as soon as you enter into the space.

Neurological refresh: Finding ways to decompress is necessary for all of us.  If we were unable to relax and clear the mind we would all go crazy.  A good mental release you can do to decompress is a neurological refresh.  A neurological refresh is a simple task of changing focus from a stressful demand to something entertaining for the mind.  An entertaining mind refresh is something you enjoy doing.  My neurological refresh I like to do is read a good book.  When I delve into a good book, my mind is able to break away from those stressful demands and enter into the world found in the pages of the book.  Figure out your own neurological refresh, be it reading, watching TV, or going for a walk.  Make sure to allow time to create a mind reset by engaging in your personal neurological refresh.

Conscious cleanse: A conscious cleanse is good for a mind reset.  When you feel overwhelmed by the many decisions you make throughout the day, your mind becomes cluttered and in need for freedom of any decisions for a moment.  A conscious cleanse is just that.  Imagine soft drops falling over your mind washing away all the clutter in the mind.  Even though our minds stay active, you can take a moment and think of nothing.  Sounds funny, but figuring out a technique that can cleanse your conscious to just a blank slate will do wonders for your overall mental health which in turn makes your mind stronger to deal with everyday decisions.

Yearn deeply: As children, we knew the joy of longing and yearning for things we desired.  As adults, we do not find joy in longing and yearning.  Why is that?  Yearning deeply helps us tap into the recesses of our minds.  These recesses help open up our mind’s ability to imagine the unimaginable for our lives.  A final mental reset to utilize when life gets too serious is to yearn deeply for something you desire to do.  Tapping into those deep recesses gives your mind a break from the demands of life and begin to find that joy we used to feel as children.

~4-Ever, P

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#BloggiteBits-Quality F.R.I.E.N.D.

Quality F.R.I.E.N.D.: Faithful, Respectful, Intuitive, Entertaining, Nice, Daring

#BloggiteBits-Quality Friend
Quality F.R.I.E.N.D.

How many of you have had friends who seem to only be there for you when you are going strong in your life?  How many of those friends are nowhere to be seen when times get tough?  We have all suffered from “friends” like that, you know the ones, Dear Bloggites.  The “friends” who are smiling to your face while stabbing you in the back once you turn.  These friends are called (appropriately so) frenemies.  Have you ever questioned if you are being a good enough friend to those you care about?  In this installment of the ABCs of encouragement with the #BloggiteBits Campaign, I am going to cover some constant traits of a Quality F.R.I.E.N.D. and help you understand what those traits do to the ones you care about: Faithful, Respectful, Intuitive, Entertaining, Nice, & Daring.

Faithful: Being a quality friend means you are faithful to the friendship.  Faithful is not in the sense of faithful boyfriend/girlfriend but it is faithful meaning always being there for that person.  A faithful friend will always drop what they are doing when you truly need them in time of crisis as well as in time of celebration.  If you strive to be a quality friend, assess your faithful quality toward those you care about and make it a point to be there when you are needed no matter how much life tries to get in the way.

Respectful: Being a quality friend also means you are respectful to your friends.  We all like to get snarky and tease one another, heck, that is what a friendship is about, but even through all the teasing and sarcastic comments, be sure your words still hold that respectful tone.  Everyone wants to be respected and you should always respect others, especially those you claim to care about.  Watch your tones when talking to your friends and be sure to always show that respect no matter what you say and do toward them.

Intuitive: Being a quality friend brings a sense of intuition to the relationship.  Being intuitive does not mean you are reading their minds, it means you are fully aware of your friend and can read when something is wrong without a word being spoken.  As you build your relationships, the ability to be intuitive to those people will grow.  Make sure you truly look at your friends when you first engage them and allow your intuition to kick in and assess their overall appearance and attend to any needs you sense.

Entertaining: Being a quality friend has its trait of entertainment.  How many have you come into contact with that seems to not have any joy or interest in having fun?  Being a quality friend, you bring the entertaining aspect to the relationship.  There are times for seriousness and there are times for entertainment and even in moments of seriousness, you might find the need for entertaining your friend just the right medicine to bring the serious level down.

Nice: Being a quality friend means you should always be nice to those you care about.  Sounds really simple, but do you know how rare it is to find someone who is genuinely nice?  Very rare in this age of the ‘me’ mentality and where being rude and disrespectful is the norm.  If you desire to truly be a quality friend, be sure to be nice to your friends.  Honestly ask them how they are doing and mean it by listening to them and engaging in their life.

Daring: Being a quality friend means you should bring the element of daring to the relationship.  Being daring does not mean doing stupid stuff, it just means look for stuff to do that you would not normally do.  If neither one of you are outdoorsy, plan a hike or a horseback riding day.  Daring does not mean dangerous, it just means find the unusual element of fun for the two of you to experience during your time together.

~4-Ever, P

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#BloggiteBits-Persistent A.R.D.O.R.

Persistent A.R.D.O.R.: Adamant pursuit, Rigorous search, Determined success, Observe results, Reflective thoughts

#BloggiteBits-Persistent Ardor
Persistent A.R.D.O.R.

Persistent or annoying?  I believe that if you desire to achieve something, having strong persistence is only a plus factor in achieving that goal that is desired.  In this installment of the ABCs of encouragement with the #BloggiteBits Campaign, I am going to give you some pointers on living life with Persistent A.R.D.O.R. and achieving those goals you set in all aspects of your life: Adamant pursuit, Rigorous search, Determined success, Observe results, & Reflective thoughts.

Adamant pursuit: Achieving goals in life is something you have to commit to on a regular basis.  Having an adamant pursuit of your goals in life will help you stay focused and keep your dreams alive until the goal is reached.  Living life with persistent ardor keeps the goal in front of you as you go through life.

Rigorous search: Goals require a determined person who will rigorously search for the next step along the way when achieving something.  Rigorous searching does not mean you have to chase things erratically, it just means that you will always look for the next minor step in the ultimate big picture of the desired goal.

Determined success: Determination is the one item that separates the people who achieve their goals and those who do not.  Have a determined success mentality will get you that much closer to reaching your goal.  This pointer goes along the lines of that saying we all know so well, “Well begun is half done.”  Having a determination that you will be successful in achieving your goal puts you way ahead of the game.

Observe results: Observing results as you reach each minor step along your journey to the ultimate goal will help you adjust to how to pursue the next minor step.  Observation is key in all situations, especially ones that deal with reaching your goals.

Reflective thoughts: On your journey to the ultimate big picture goal, be sure to have reflective thoughts on each little success as you complete one minor step toward your goal.  Reflection is good for the mind and soul.  Reflective thoughts help you appreciate what you have accomplished as well as what you will accomplish.  Envisioning the success of reaching your goal goes a long way toward truly achieve it.

~4-Ever, P

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#BloggiteBits-Optimistic A.C.T.I.O.N.

Optimistic A.C.T.I.O.N.: Affirmation, Charismatic, Thankful, Influential, Outgoing, Nurturing

#BloggiteBits-Optimistic Action
Optimistic A.C.T.I.O.N.

When you are faced with challenges each day, it is very easy to give in to the desperation and anxiety.  The anguish you feel when life seems to be going against you tends to make your outlook rather gloomy and negative.  In this installment of the ABCs of encouragement with the #BloggiteBits Campaign, I challenge you to turn around that thinking with these Optimistic A.C.T.I.O.N. techniques.  Applying these techniques on a daily basis, no matter how rough life may seem, will help keep the negativity away: Affirmation, Charismatic, Thankful, Influential, Outgoing, & Nurturing.

 Affirmation: Mental affirmation is what I want to talk to you about.  What you say to yourself daily in your mind determines your outlook on life and how you react to situations.  Optimistic action involves affirming oneself daily so your optimism tank stays full thus activating your action tank to react in positive, reaffirming ways with others.

Charismatic: Having a charismatic mentality does not mean you have to be a loud outspoken person of faith.  It does mean that you have the ability to draw people to you and influence their behavior.  Daily optimistic actions are easier if you make it a point to be a charismatic person in all you do.  Do not be afraid to step up and become a leader in an activity.  Keeping the optimism in your mind, you will show a charismatic personality that others will be draw to.

Thankful: Being thankful for everything you have in life is hard for most people.  Intentional daily reminders to have a thankful mentality will go far on helping you keep the optimistic actions each day.  Your thankful mentality will help you appreciate all the little things others bring to the table and they will feel validated for your thankfulness.

Influential: We all desire to be influential, but did you know you probably already are?  People watch other’s actions all the time.  A young family member or friend is influenced by the actions of someone older than them.  Even your pets can be influenced by your actions!  Make sure to stay aware of who might be watching what you do wherever you go.  Be sure your optimistic actions are a positive influence for others.

Outgoing: An outgoing personality is always an attention getter.  The question is will your outgoing activity be one of encouragement or discouragement?  Optimistic actions go well with an outgoing personality.  Each day, try and break out of your comfort zone and do something of an outgoing nature that you would not normally do.  I promise after the nervousness wears off you will have a blast!

Nurturing: A nurturing mentality goes a long way on helping you have optimistic actions.  When you are nurturing, you are stepping outside yourself and putting other’s needs ahead of you.  Nurturing does not mean to coddle or baby someone, it just means to care for someone else’s needs and provide them with what they need.  Optimistic actions are better received with a nurturing mentality.

~4-Ever, P

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#BloggiteBits-New V.I.S.I.O.N.

New V.I.S.I.O.N.: Verbal encouragement, Increase karma, Spark creativity, Inspire minds, Open worlds, Noteworthy attributes

#BloggiteBits-New Vision
New V.I.S.I.O.N.

We are all dreamers in our own rights.  Some have simple dreams of having enough money to pay their bills and put food on the table each month while others dream they will someday travel the world and change it for the better.  It is the dreamers that build better worlds and it is the dreamers who keep us young at heart.  One of the great things about being a dreamer is that you can help impact so many lives by tapping into other people’s dreams and building them up.  In this installment of the ABCs of encouragement with the #BloggiteBits Campaign, I am going to give you some tricks that will increase your ability to dream of a better life.  I will encourage people to have a New V.I.S.I.O.N. of their life they are currently living and impact the lives of other dreamers they come into contact with: Verbal encouragement, Increase karma, Spark creativity, Inspire minds, Open worlds, & Noteworthy attributes.

Verbal encouragement: Everyone loves to hear encouraging words.  A simple, “Way to go!” given to someone has a massive impact on that person’s day.  As dreamers (which we all are), we love to feel the positive energy surge when someone gives a verbal encouragement to us.  As you encounter others on your daily trek through life, be sure to provide at least five people with some kind of verbal encouragement.  I say five, but even if you only verbalize one encouragement a day, it is still impacting others as well as yourself.  When you make a point to share verbal encouragement, that sharing lifts your own spirits which will help you have a new vision in your life daily.

Increase karma:  We have all heard the adage, “Karma is a bitch” but did you know karma is both good and bad?  When I suggest you increase karma, I am meaning the good karma that is out there to share.  Increasing someone’s good karma is as simple as only focusing positive vibes at that person you are engaging with.  Positivity in mind, body, and soul helps a person feel like they are living under the good karma cloud.  As you go about your daily life, be sure to increase other’s karma by showing encouraging signs of love and support when you share a positive word with them.

Spark creativity: We all know that little spark.  The spark in the dark that illuminates everything around it.  Creativity is usually ignited with a spark.  Sparking creativity in yourself and others is so much fun to do and witness once it takes place.  Allow yourself time to day dream like you used to do as a child.  Day dreams allow our minds to wander into the world of creativity.  When you engage others, think of ways to spark their creativity.  Find out what they dream about and help them brainstorm ways to be able to realize their passions in life with a new vision.

Inspire minds: The mind is a terrible thing to waste.  A mind should be exercised and one of the best exercises for a mind is to find inspiration.  When you inspire minds, you will see a mental shift in the person whose mind is being inspired.  People get so busy in their day to day lives, they tend to forget to exercise their mind with fun, day dreamy stuff.  As adults, many people think they have to all of a sudden become serious and not allow fun into their lives anymore.  This is not the case.  As an adult, a person should work to inspire their mind on a daily basis if for no other reason than to see the hope in the world.  Make sure when you are interacting with others that you try and inspire their minds.  They will appreciate you more for it.

Open worlds: Having an active mind with an ability to inspire and create things, you are able to find new vision in your life.  Finding new vision helps open new worlds in your life as well as others.  When you come across a fellow dreamer, engage their mind in such animated conversation that their mind will begin to open to new worlds of opportunity.  Having the ability to open yourself to new worlds of opportunity will help you achieve goals and dreams, who doesn’t love that idea?

Noteworthy attributes: What is one trait that draws you to a person?  Someone who has noteworthy attributes will always stand out in a crowd.  Noteworthy attributes are things that stick out on a person in a very good way.  An example is someone who donates their time to help feed the homeless.  They do it because they honestly care and not because it is expected of them.  When engaging others in conversations, make sure to always show the attributes you have that are positive and effective.  Being a person with noteworthy attributes means you truly do embrace all people equally and strive to help as many as you can.

~4-Ever, P

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#BloggiteBits-Magnificent V.A.L.U.E.

Magnificent V.A.L.U.E.: Virtuous intent, Above reproach, Lead by example, Uphold your word, Ethical principles

#BloggiteBits-Magnificent Value
Magnificent V.A.L.U.E.

Value is important to everyone.  Not the value that money can provide, but the value that comes from validation by others.  Everyone feels they have value and most do.  In this installment of the ABCs of encouragement with the #BloggiteBits Campaign, I am going to help turn your value into the Magnificent V.A.L.U.E. it can truly be: Virtuous intent, Above reproach, Lead by example, Uphold your word, & Ethical principles.

Virtuous intent: We make decisions with an intent each day.  Have you ever thought about how your emotions dictate the result of the intent?  To bring your value into the magnificent level, you should always have a virtuous intent behind all that you do.  Be sure to treat people kindly and when you are going to do something, have a virtuous intent in your actions.  People will look at you with honor and respect.

Above reproach: When you have dealings with others, be sure to always have actions that will be above reproach.  Have magnificent value, you have to conduct yourself in such a way that you will always be above reproach when you are being scrutinized by others.  Living a life above reproach and with respect to all, you will be thought of by others as a person with magnificent values.

Lead by example: People are very good at giving lip service to those they interact with, however, when it is time to follow up the lip service with action, most people are nowhere to be found.  One way to be viewed as a person with magnificent values, lead by example.  Say what you mean and mean what you say and make sure your actions support your words.  Leading by example helps people know you are a person of worth.

Uphold your word: This one goes hand in hand with leading by example.  If you say something and give your word to another, be sure to follow through with your promises.  People in this day tend to be flippant about what they say or promise to others because they have the ‘me’ mentality that does not consider the feelings of others.  Upholding your word will make people realize you are a person with magnificent values.

Ethical principles: A person’s value is usually dictated by their ethical principles.  When you guide your decisions with sound ethical principles, others will take note.  Using your ethical principles to guide you in life will help you achieve magnificent value in other’s eyes.

~4-Ever, P