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Reading + Writing Vortex = My Addiction

Hello, Dear Bloggites!  How many of you ever find yourself so immersed in an activity that you are ‘sucked into’ the vortex?  Hands? Anyone?  Bueller?  Bueller?  Oh, HEY!  There is one…oh, wait, that’s mine…

Ever since I was a kid, I have had this ability to tone everything around me out and become one with an activity.  This is a very strong super power of mine when it comes to reading or writing.

I will pick up a book with the intent of reading just one chapter and then hours later shake the imagination monkeys from my brain and return back to the real world to find the one chapter turned into ten or twenty or an entire novel! 😀

Yep, it is a wonderful super power, indeed.

The reason behind my reading vortex is simply the enjoyment of finding a new world to bring into my life.  Whether it is a scary story, funny story, romance, or biography, I love meeting new and interesting characters and learning about their lives and the world they live in.  I walk away from a story with new friends and a satisfaction so grand that I cannot wait for the next great adventure!

Queue in my other addiction of choice: writing.  I am working on my first novel and have written many poems and short stories in my life but the writing vortex I fall into willingly while writing my novel…man, no words can describe it!  I usually start off with a refresher of where I left off last and as soon as I start reading, my vortex engine begins to rev and then it is off I go!

When I write, the characters and their story drive my fingers and words.  I may start out with a concept or intent for a story line but as the characters are developed their life takes over and they become the driving force behind my writing.  Many times I realize at the end of a chapter or scene that it did not resemble my initial intent when I sat down to start writing.  This feeling is so Amazing and Otherworldly to me that I feel like my world is the imaginary world while the novel’s world is reality.

It is hard to try and express what this feels like because it is just that: a feeling; a sensation of images and thoughts.  It is my addiction.  A very good addiction at that.  It does not hurt anyone or mess up my life other than to take me to a new when instead of my when.  Other writers can probably express it better than I can because all I can come up with is my writing vortex…LOL

Reading & writing are so important to me, and for me, that they become something I need on a daily basis to live.  My Neanderthal friends will never get how or why I am so into reading or writing, but my Bibliophile friends are reading these words and shaking their heads yes while adding their own feelings to this. 🙂

See you on the flip side!

~4-Ever, P

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New Year, New Start 2017

Hello, Dear Bloggites!  If I plan this right, I will post this right at Midnight.  As you all know, I have had some major personal challenges with My Dad’s illness and ultimate passing, so my life as I knew it was put on hold to care for him.  Since his passing, I have felt like I am floundering.  I am at peace knowing he is in heaven with the Good Lord, pain free, and partying with the J-Dude, yet my heart and soul have a deep hole that has yet to begin to heal.

This afternoon, someone posted one of those silly tests you see all the time on Facebook.  This one was a crossword puzzle with the statement that the first word(s) you see will define your 2017 (paraphrasing here on the actual description/directions).  I saw three words right away which got me thinking.  These words may have come from a silly test, but I can see how they do define my plans for this upcoming year.  Those three words were (in order): Change, Passion, Luck.

Change: I do plan on changing much in my life this New Year.  Living wise, alone at last; Health wise, both physical and mental; Work wise, continue to grow my current business and build my wordsmith business; Social wise, beat this reclusive mode and get back out in the world with family and friends.

Change 1: I will find myself on my own again with my son, the dog, and the guinea pig with no roommate for the first time in, geez, years.  This is a wonderful feeling for me.  I have always loved my independence and even though having a roommate is a good financial help, it kills my independence.

Change 2: I have been paying for a gym membership for the past year and have not utilized it due to my Father’s poor health and work demands.  I am going to utilize this gym membership to change my health for the better and reach the weight I am happiest at once again.

Change 3: My current business is surviving this lull in the industry and seems to finally have bounced back to allow the financial freedom of working at home to continue.  I will continue to find ways to build income from this business.

Change 4: I am going to take advantage of the social invites I get and start actually going!  I will find the balance to be able to focus on work yet still build my social life I used to enjoy before opening a business.

Passion: I am Italian, I ooze passion but lately my pores have been blocked up.  I still love life but the passion for it was extremely dimmed with the passing of my Dad.  I do plan on reigniting the passionate love affair I hold for life in my professional and personal worlds.

Passion 1: I have a wordsmith business that until recently, has just been a hobby because I have a passionate love affair with anything associated with the written word.  I plan on growing this business up, one client at a time and look forward to the new relationships I shall make along the way.

Passion 2: I am now looking at taking myself seriously as a writer and growing this part of me on a personal level.  All my life I have written in some form or another to comfort my soul.  From journaling my exciting life as a kid to adult all the way to having started my own novel in hopes of publishing.  My goal is to sign up for some form of writing class each month to build my talent as a writer and start opening doors to the publishing world to promote myself as a writer.

Luck: I feel luck is created by opportunities in my life.  I find the possibilities and opportunities and from there luck grows.  Who doesn’t want luck in their life, heck they even have a sayings for it, “Luck, you’re either born with it or you are not.” or “You either have good luck or bad luck.” etc.

Luck 1: I know with every situation I face, I will need a little luck in finding my way.  The luck will come from determination and communication.  I am determined to see my goals through any time I create them and will stop at nothing to reach them because I always strive to reach the new level of me.  Communication with other like-minded individuals on a professional and personal level will help me find the lucky contact that will help me reach the next level of me on my journey to build my businesses.

Luck 2: Waking up every morning and shaking off the empty hole in my heart and soul and just start finding things to fill my time outside work.  My current business demands so much of my time daily, that I tend to just stay home and do nothing when the office is ‘closed’ but no more.  Even if it is just getting up, putting on my clothes (no joke, you do not understand how easy it is to just stay in my PJs while working from home, it is after all one of the perks), doing my face (new skin regiments starts on the 1st of January), and going for a drive to the country to sit in a field.

These three items being the words I saw in the silly little test, I am reminded of my above planned goals I have been making for myself.  See, I don’t believe in resolutions, they are made to be broken, but planned goals are something you work toward and are not made to be broken.  Goals are simply a future achievement of the next level of you.  I like that image in my head, so goals are my thing, not resolutions.

My goals associated with the three words are pretty simple, yet complex at the same time.  Change is unavoidable in life and I have some major changes ahead of me as you can see.  Everything that happens in life causes change and I look forward to it, heck, I not only look forward to it, I anticipate it with great passion, and luck!

There you have it, Dear Bloggites, my thoughts on the upcoming New Year and all the wonderful new experiences it holds.  We live in a wonderful world, because after all, we are blessed every day we wake up and breathe in the new day.  I plan on embracing that world with all my heart and soul and I hope you enjoy experiencing these things along the way as I share them with you!

Happy New Year!  Keep Being.  Keep Experiencing.  Keep Sharing.  Keep Trekking. 🙂

~4-Ever, P

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15 Minutes of Fame-Revisited

Above is a picture I took a few years ago.  It received some national coverage due to an incident that had happened at the beginning of the Baseball Season that year.  My friend, John, Tweeted the picture with a little blub to a few known sports writers as well as blogged about it on his blog site, Goin’ To The John.  I enjoyed my 15-minutes of fame and would like to share that memory with you, Dear Bloggites.  Never give up your dreams, your 15-minutes can happen at any moment, too…

Two years ago today, I had my 15 minutes of fame, my viral moment, in this social media driven world. We are probably all destined for one, at least according to Andy Warhol, and he made that claim before Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube existed – let alone the concept of the internet. Or the “information […]

via Cut Flowers — Goin’ To The John

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Arthur Murray: Where Everyone Knows My Name

Have you ever wished for a place like Cheers?  How many people have watched the beloved sitcom and thought, “Man, I wish I had a place to go where everyone knew my name?”  Come on, we all have at one point or another in our life.

I have several places in my life where everyone knows my name, but my MOST LOVED and FAVORITE place of all is with my Arthur Murray Fort Worth Family.  I started dancing at AMFW back in 2006 a couple of months after they had their grand opening.

There were not many students, but we all got along and the dance teachers made all of us feel wonderful about ourselves and our abilities to dance, or future abilities to dance if you had minimal experience.

I have always dreamed of taking dance lessons, ever since I was a kid of 7 years old and watched Gene Kelly tap across the floor, or Fred Astaire and Ginger Rogers dance cheek to cheek in the movie “Top Hat” (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NrCsyN-fZ94).

I was in love immediately with dancing and watching the dancers on TV and later in life, on the big screen when I was older.  I always asked my parents for lessons but being Seven of Seven in a family with a single income, the answer was no, as it should have been.  The Parental Units were doing all they could for their unit of seven children.

I promised myself that when I got older, I was going to take dance lessons and would be the next Ginger Rogers, but like most adults, life got in the way and it never happened until I almost lost my life in 2005 and I was hell-bent on never putting off what I wanted to do anymore.

For a year, I had eyeballed the Arthur Murray Studios in Plano and Dallas, but did not want to make the drive and then one day, I found Arthur Murray Fort Worth had opened up and it was as if a grand halo of shining white light rained down on me and the planets aligned for me to finally see my dream come to fruition…I was so THERE!

I was a broken, half bodied cyborg walking with a slight limp into the studio and met Douglas and Britt, the owners.  I watched a demo of all the different dances and levels and signed up for an intro lesson and I was hooked.  All the staff at the studio helped shape my broken ugly duckling body into the proverbial swan over the next year.

My body, mind, and soul was purged and renewed and life was beautiful!  Then health issues struck.  My dreams were halted after a botched gall bladder surgery and I became hit and miss on my lessons and eventually, life events took me away from my haven I found at Arthur Murray.  The family I built there were always on my mind and in my heart and I longed to return but was unable.

Years go by, fast forward to 2015, nine years after I started at Arthur Murray, four and a half years since I danced last, and three and a half years since I even stepped foot into the studio.  I walked into my home away from home, my haven, my love, my dream, my family yesterday and it was as if I never left.  Sure, there were new faces: a LOT of new students, a LOT of new teachers, but there were some of the faces that started with me on my journey so many years ago.  People I love, people who love me, even the newbies (to me) knew who I was!  I had so many teachers come up to me and say, “YOU”RE the Famous Peggy!” or “Peggy? I know all about you!”  It was a great ego stroke for me, a much needed ego stroke with the things I have been dealing with of late, but it made me pause and say, “THIS is my Cheers.  This is my place where everyone knows my name.”

That is a good thought to have and you know what, Arthur Murray Fort Worth is still my family in all sense of the word.  Time changed nothing and I am so grateful for that!

~4-Ever, P

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In Times of Trouble, Give A Little Chuckle

“Why do we laugh at such terrible things? Because comedy is often the sarcastic realization of inescapable tragedy.” ~Bryant H. McGill

“If by chance some day you’re not feeling well and you should remember some silly thing I’ve said or done and it brings back a smile to your face or a chuckle to your heart, then my purpose as your clown has been fulfilled.” ~Red Skelton

As I write this blog I am sitting in the hospital room with my Mother thinking about all the other times we have sat up here in the past six months or so. It is no fun when your Parental Units (AKA Parents) are getting old. Even though they feel young in their minds still, their bodies carry on that fun dance of “No You’re Not.”

One of the best qualities of my family is that we all have a sense of humor and find those chuckling or laughing moments in even the direst of situations. Perfect example, several months ago, my Mom was doing her duty as a dedicated Catholic and was walking in from the pouring rain to the church foyer for Ash Wednesday. When she stepped into the foyer, her foot caught on the temporary carpet and she fell on her right knee and broke her femur (thigh bone) right above the knee and the bone broke through the skin.

Ouch, right? Well, there happened to be a large statue of Jesus Christ right in front of where she fell, so me, being me, walked into her hospital room and said, “You know, Mom. When they say, ‘Fall at the Feet of Jesus,’ they did not mean it LITERALLY!” My Mom, Dad, brothers, and sisters all busted out laughing. It is what we needed to alleviate the worry and stress of what this fall and break would mean to my Mother.

So, I once again sit here, in the hospital room because this time, she was brought in to the ER with a severe headache, pain in her neck, shoulders, and chest. The ER doc (after several hours) decided there was something going on and he admitted her to the hospital. The going joke in our family is Mom is so determined to get all her kids together, she schedules her hospital stays around the holidays…LOL

As Mom sits and eats her lunch, we are enjoying the various members of the hospital who are coming in and making sure she is okay and if we need anything. This hospital staff are the best, and it is not because my parents are frequent fliers into their rooms. 😉

I think everyone tries to find some form of encouragement when times of trouble hits their lives and for us, giving a little chuckle or full out belly laugh is how we cope. It not only strengthens our family unit as a whole, it gives much relief to all the stress and worry that tries to take up residence in our minds and hearts.

My suggestion to you, Dear Bloggites, next time you are faced with a time of trouble, give a little chuckle. I promise, you will feel much better and more appreciative of what you have in your life.

~4-Ever, P

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Traditional Marriage Defector

Before I start, please know that I am not writing this to offend anyone’s beliefs and if I do offend you, I am sorry but this is how I feel.  I write this out of love for all:

Today marks a historical day for the United States of America. The Supreme Court passed the law that Same Sex Marriage is legal across the United States.  The Associate Justice Anthony Kennedy was the swing vote on the matter.  It made me proud to be a Catholic. Associate Justice Kennedy is a Catholic who voted for equality among all sexes to get married.

Equality-that is the key word here.  Our Constitution has supported equality for all American citizens.  Our history has its black marks and its bright days and today is one of those bright days.  I used to lean towards being against same sex marriage for years until one year (a long time ago) a good friend of mine sat me down for a heart to heart on same sex marriage and homosexuality in general.  Mind you, I have never been against a person’s preference from one sex over another, but I have had the definition of marriage taught to me that it is between man and woman.

My friend is gay and she wanted me to understand that the desires of a homosexual versus a heterosexual is more the same than different.  They both desire love, marriage, family, and someone to witness their life so it meant something when they pass on from this world.  She pointed out that banning same sex marriage is no different than when people kept slaves (her words, not mine, and she has that right, she is black) or women being banned from voting.  The denial of a person’s rights is never okay, no matter the situation.

America believes in the freedom of choice and to deny someone the choice of marriage with someone of the same sex is wrong and unconstitutional.   Everyone has a right to choose in their life, be it guns, abortion, religious choices, or same sex marriage, everyone should have that right to choose and other people do not have the right to control another person’s choice.  That is what makes America so Great!

I love my Country and I love my Constitution and that conversation with my friend really opened my eyes that I was going against what I loved the most: freedom of choice!  My mind was changed.  People love who they love and that love should be allowed to be shared for the whole world to see.  Their choice to marry another of the same sex does not affect your life in any way shape or form.  It will not sway your foundation you believe in, it will only allow more happiness in the world; And isn’t that what we all want?  Happiness for others as well as ourselves?

I am a traditional marriage defector because I believe everyone has a right to choose who they spend the rest of their life with.  Just because I don’t believe in marriage for me (been down that road several times with the same results: divorce) but I will always believe in marriage for others: man and woman, woman and woman, or man and man.  It is their choice and I am a proud American to see our Constitution amended to allow that freedom and equality for all.

~4-Ever, P

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What Do You Want To Be When You Grow Up?

My answer to the question in the title, Dear Bloggites, is this: “Why do I have to grow up?”

I watch people on a daily basis.  I am what you call a “people watcher,” however, instead of judging those I see, I ask myself, “Did they grow up when they became an adult?”

What is so wrong with being child-like in your views of the world around you?  Nothing, in my opinion.  When we were kids we did not focus on the “bad stuff” in the world, we focused on the wonderment of discovery.

Discovery is such a crucial aspect to being a child.  As children, we learned each time we “discovered” something new.  Oh, the Wonderment of the Discovery!  I remember finding such joy in something new that I discovered.  A joy that stays with me to this day.

See, growing up doesn’t have to be a bad thing.  Growing up really just means different responsibilities in our lives.  When you grow up, you gain responsibilities.  The problem with the image of growing up is that people think they cannot find wonder in the world anymore because they are now “Adults.”

When you lose that wonderment with the world around you, you start losing that joy.  If your joy is gone, what do you have to look forward to?

Engaging in activities that bring you joy help keep you engaged with LIFE!  We should not strive to exist, we should strive to live.  Being active in life makes life more rewarding.  When you are engaged, you find the joy, and when you find the joy, you find the wonderment you had as a child.

Finding that wonderment makes life worth living, because every day is a new discovery.  Having a life with discovery is having a life worth experiencing.

The question posed in my title, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” should be changed to, “What do you want to do as an adult?”

Growing up does not have to be a bad thing, Dear Bloggites; growing up should still involve the exuberance of childhood as you discover new and exciting things in the world each and every day. 🙂

~4-Ever, P