Posted in This & That

Mind Over Matter

As I sit here hanging with my GrandKiddo, I realize that these are the times that I most enjoy.  People get so busy doing things that they really do not allow time to just be in the moment.  I am guilty of this as well.  I prefer to be busy most of the day because if I am not doing something, I get very bored and sleepy.

Sleep is a rare thing for me.  I have been an insomniac for most of my life and I do good falling asleep and sleeping for an hour or two before waking throughout the night.  I have accepted that this is my life and as I get older and my body prefers getting up Uber Early every day now, sleep becomes more elusive.

Being bored will make me sleepy and depending on my pain level, I may fall asleep on occasion, but normally, I stay awake and think of what I can do to pass the time.  I have many videos and shows I like to watch and of course, there is always a book ready for me to read at the tip of my fingers that help pass the time.  But just hanging out with my GrandKiddo or GrandKiddos, or family, or friends, THOSE are the best things to alleviate the boredom and sleepiness.

I know I may be rambling and not really on topic of Mind Over Matter as this blog is titled, but it all ties in together.  I promise, Dear Bloggites. 🙂  We have all heard the phrase mind over matter.  The all-encompassing “If you don’t mind, it don’t matter” attitude that many take when they don’t really feel like getting into the nitty-gritty of life with other people.  This is their way of dismissing someone’s feelings while sounding supportive.

That statement is really not a nice statement.  It tells someone that if they can just accept what is happening to them without questioning it, then the feeling they are having is unnecessary and unimportant.  How sad is that?  When did it become okay to dismiss our feelings?  Now, I know what you are thinking, everyone has extreme feelings in this day and age, but really, it is just extreme because they have been conditioned to dismiss how they feel and so when their feelings get so overwhelming from being ignored, they explode.

I think I am going to go back to allowing myself to feel every moment and to appreciate what I am feeling.  When I appreciate what I feel, it helps me to become more appreciative of the world and people around me.  I said in my blog a couple of days ago or so that I was done trying to be who I used to be.  Embracing the emotions, I feel in the moment is a big step for me to let go of the past and the ME BEFORE.

No more hiding my emotions from others but also no more of the extreme blow ups of feelings.  Now, if you know me, you all know that I don’t show my emotions so you may be a bit confused by my statements here, but I do feel emotions, but I have also learned to hide them from others because I have to be the strong one.  The decision maker.

I will still be the strong one and the decision maker because that is truly how I am built, but the decision to not hide my emotions is really a decision for myself.  I will see my emotions now and not ignore them with the mind over matter facts.  I will allow myself to feel the nitty-gritty of the emotions washing over me and I will smile every time.

Because really, at the end of our lifetime, you should mind because it does matter. Smiling and embracing ourselves in a positive way is the best way to be true to yourself and feeling your emotions is the truest way you can ever be you.

~4-Ever, P

Posted in Writer Musings

Choices

All of my life I have been faced with decision after decision and making choices one way or the other.  I am sure, Dear Bloggites, that you have all been in this situation, it is called LIFE.  Throughout my life, every active choice I made had a specific reaction to it.  As my boys were growing up (and now my GrandKiddos), I always said this phrase, “For every action you make, there is a reaction, be it good or bad.” to remind them that their choices in life affect many things and not just one thing they are deciding on.

I have made plenty of bad choices in my lifetime but not all the bad choices had bad outcomes.  Both my boys were from choices I made when I was younger, and I do not regret those decisions in the least bit.  My life has been so enriched by my sons and will continue to be enriched for as long as I live.  I thank God every day for my boys and how well they turned out in spite of who raised them (me).

I have also made plenty of good choices in my lifetime and I continue to reap the benefits from those daily.  One of the greatest choices I made in my lifetime was to accept Christ as my Lord and Savior.  He has always seen me through, even when I had not accepted Him, and He continues to see me through daily.  Now, I still struggle with my timing verses His timing, but in the end, what is meant to happen, happens according to His plan for my life.

I am faced with some choices right now.  I do not know the current outcome because I have not made any decisions, but knowing the result of some of the decisions, I have put contingency plans into place.  That is something I recommend everyone doing, always have a contingency plan.  While one of my favorite phrases is the “For every action there is a reaction, be it good or bad” my ultimate phrase that I say and do is, “Hope for the best, prepare for the worst.”

choicesHoping for the best is a no brainer, everyone has hope the best, ultimate outcome will happen, unfortunately, the ‘best’ outcome is usually some form of happy ending in their life, but that is not always the case.  Sometimes the ‘best’ outcome is having to say good-bye to someone or something you love because you know it is for the best.  The best-case scenario I had to face was when my Dad was dying of Cancer.  I did not want to see him pass away, but I KNEW he would be better off if he did die.  This may sound heartless to some of you, but he accepted Christ as his Lord and Savior and I knew if my Dad died here on Earth, he would be in heaven celebrating a new body that will never give out on him.

Preparing for the worst is the hard part on my ultimate phrase of “Hope for the best, prepare for the worst” because no one wants to face or deal with the worst-case scenario.  The death of a loved one, to many, is the worst-case scenario.  But preparing for the worst-case scenario forces you to think of all the possible outcomes of a situation and decide on which choice would be best to take if faced with the worst-case situation.  I am at that point right now.

I have many choices to make in the next couple of months.  These choices have good and bad outcomes, but I still have to make them.  In order for me to move forward in life for myself, my Autistic son, and my dog, I have to decide which choice to do so when and if I am faced with the worst case scenario, I will have my contingency plan in place and make that decision when the time comes.

I challenge you, Dear Bloggites, think about the choices you have made in your past and all the different possible outcomes that could have happened if the current one you are in did not take place.  Then, think about your life and what you want in the future.  Make some choices and plan the contingency plans to follow and then run with the results.  You only have one life to live, make it the best life you deserve and want!

~4-Ever, P

Posted in Book Review

Book Review: It Tickled The Whiskers Of My Soul by Rebecca Rose

“It took me a long time to learn that not all pain is pointless.” ~Rebecca Rose (in It Tickled the Whiskers of My Soul)

It Tickled the Whiskers of My Soul by Rebecca RoseHello, Dear Bloggites!  I know, I was supposed to make a post yesterday, but I intentionally delayed it for today because I am bringing you a special book review.  The author, Rebecca Rose, emailed me offering her latest book for free if I was willing to give an honest review of it after I was finished.  Of course, I do my best to never turn down a request for a review, but this one was extra special because I “met” Rebecca via email when she published her first book, I’ll Be Fine, and requested a review.

I loved that story so much, that I talk about it to this day!  So, of course, I jumped at the opportunity to read her newest release, It Tickled the Whiskers of My Soul.  This is the author’s third book but second published under her name.  This book is a story of what the author has learned over time about life, belief, and self.  The book is formatted into a separate “love letter” for each topic.

This book was written in a loving, intimate style that made you feel as if you were sitting with the author while she explained what she has learned from life.  The pictures are a joy and will bring a smile to your face even if you think you are the grumpiest person alive.  Each letter has a theme in it and the author goes into detail about what journey she took to realized that specific theme i.e. true self, fear, laws of attraction, intention, etc.

I loved that even though this book is on spirituality, it is not preachy or skewed to one view or another, so it is written for all to read.  I enjoyed reading how the author found her way through situations and time.  So many people do not view “bad” or “hard” times as a learning experience and I think this book would help people realize that even though the situation may be less than optimal, it is always better in the end.

I give It Tickled The Whiskers Of My Soul by Rebecca Rose 5 out of 5 Bookmarks!  Great read for people looking for ways to deal with life. 🙂

P.S.  THANK YOU, Rebecca, for the Honor of reviewing your book! 🙂

~4-Ever, P