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Here’s What I know; Here’s What I Believe

Here is what I know: People Suck

We as a human race are so self-centered and self-focused on what “I want” and what’s “In it for me?” and what “I am entitled to” and on and on and on.

GET OVER YOURSELF!!!

The “I, I, I” and “Me, Me, Me” mentality is so over the top!  And I grew up in the 80s – the most materialistic era of “Beautiful People”!

Here is what I believe: People are Amazing

Every individual is amazingly unique and provides something worth knowing – no matter how small.

EMBRACE YOUR UNIQUENESS!!!

I believe every person out there has a desire to spread happiness and/or joyful encouragement.  I mean, Everyone really wants World Peace! 🙂

I love to meet people where they are in their life journey and then continue with them onto the next level of self together.

Here is what I live: Rule #32 – Appreciate the Little Things in Life

I live each day with a purpose and one thought in mind when I wake up – make a difference for just one person.

DO YOU, BABY!!!

I wake up every morning believing I make a difference no matter what.  Each action, each word, each gesture I make has an impact.  Even if all I do in a day is to organize the haphazard shopping carts in the cart zone, I believe that random act made a difference for the employee responsible for collecting all the carts because I helped them for a moment in their life on the job.

Here is what I find: It Is Not Easy

I suffer from chronic pain daily and many times I wake up to a rebellious broken body that the thought of simply moving is the last thing I want to do.

I HAVE TO CHOOSE!!!

I choose to make a point of making a difference, especially on those pain filled days, I especially need to intentionally follow Rule #32 because I believe that when a simple act is done, it creates a ripple – as if a single rain drop lands on a still pond – that ripple spreads.  As it spreads, I know it will return back to me in such an amazing way that for a moment, I forget People Suck and I remember Each Person is Unique and they provide something worth knowing – no matter how small.

My Challenge to you, Dear Bloggites, is this: Take today and intentionally do a random act of kindness, no matter how small, because it is how we all can Appreciate the Little Things in Life #Rule32. 🙂

~4-Ever, P

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Book Review: Live Alone And Like It by Marjorie Hillis

“There is nothing like a good domestic background for producing results.” ~Marjorie Hillis

Circa 1936, women were finding their footing in the World of Man and finding they were liking the freedom, independence, and individuality of being on their own and not dependent upon a man to live their life.  This new world of independence brought on many questions about exactly how a woman should act and be when they live alone.

live-alone-and-like-it-by-marjorie-hillisMarjorie Hillis heard these questions and answered them with her book Live Alone and Like It.  From fighting off loneliness to proper etiquette on how one should act in the presence of a suitor, this book discusses it all.  I just happened by a review on this book and it sounded interesting and quirky and so I bought me a copy to see what all the hub-bub was about.  I am so glad I did!

Being a single woman in today’s age of online dating (which I refuse to do), constant electronic busyness (I have gotten better about staying constantly plugged it), and demands from everyday life (still trying to find the balance), I struggle with finding time for just me.  This book helped open my eyes to the fact that I must take the time to ‘do me’.  As all the ladies know, when you take the time to look good, you feel good about yourself, and life seems easier.

Live Alone and Like It has some great advice for the single woman out there.  Not only does the author, Marjorie Hillis, explain how a “Liver-Alone” has to manage life on their own, she also discusses how life of a single man and life of a single woman differ.  Single women need to take the initiative to get together with friends instead of waiting for the invitation to come their way.

One of the first lines in the book says it all starts with the attitude.  If you do not have the right attitude when you live alone, you will be overtaken by the negative mindset of depression, desolation, self-loathing, and loneliness.  Will you feel some of these things, especially loneliness, at times-yes.  Will the advice and tools help you know how to defeat it-of course!

The book contains practical advice in every area of struggle a woman may feel when she is living alone and having to fend for herself.  Along with the practical advice, the author provides examples and answers to the most asked questions a woman may have.  The only thing a reader may find as an issue is some examples are dated for the time the book was written, but overall, the advice given in Live Alone and Like It can be used and put into practice in today’s society.

I give Live Alone and Like It by Marjorie Hillis 4 out of 5 Bookmarks.  Give it a read, Dear Bloggites, you will enjoy the whimsy nature of the writing along with the practical advice.

~4-Ever, P

 

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#BloggiteBits-Zesty E.M.O.T.I.O.N.

Zesty E.M.O.T.I.O.N.: Exuberant, Mesmerizing, Opinionated, Tantalizing, Interesting, Overzealous, Nonconformist
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Zesty E.M.O.T.I.O.N.

Most people do not associate the word ‘zesty’ with emotions, however, I believe there are times where we all experience a form of emotions that seem zesty and exciting.  In the final installment of the ABCs of encouragement with the #BloggiteBits Campaign, I am going to share with you a few words that truly express a Zesty E.M.O.T.I.O.N. and how you can incorporate these emotions into your daily life: Exuberant, Mesmerizing, Opinionated, Tantalizing, Interesting, Overzealous, & Nonconformist.

 

Exuberant: Having an exuberant emotion is something most people experience but think it is something else.  Whenever you are feeling extraordinarily happy about something, you are feeling an exuberant emotion.  Sharing your exuberance with others will only help them tap into their personal exuberant emotion.  Exuberance is a bit like a sneeze, once one person does it/shows it more follow suit.

Mesmerizing: Everyone has experienced a mesmerizing person at least once in their lifetime.  That person that you cannot stop watching or listening to is exuding a mesmerizing emotion to you.  Having a mesmerizing emotion is something you do not really notice (some of you might) because it is more of the impact you have on others versus you intentionally showing an emotion.  You can share your mesmerizing emotion by simply taking in your surroundings, assessing the situation, and sharing your ideas on how to proceed or correct the problem.  A take charge person exudes a mesmerizing emotion for others to see.

Opinionated: Everyone is opinionated.  You cannot deny this fact of being opinionated because the denial in itself is an opinion of yours.  There is a big difference with being opinionated and being judgmental.  Sharing your opinions should always be done in a respectful manner.  A proper opinionated emotion is shared by keeping your tone respectful, providing facts that support your opinion, and above all, share with an open-mind to be able to hear the differing opinions others have and find a compromise.

Tantalizing: Having a tantalizing emotion means you find intrigue in the simplest of things and help others find the intrigue as well.  When you share something that provokes an interest in something, you are expressing a tantalizing emotion for others to see and embrace.  Be sure to always share things that challenge others to think outside the box and venture into the realm of possibility even if it may seem impossible.

Interesting: Having an interesting emotion means you cause others to engage in a curiosity of what you are discussing.  Interesting emotions work similarly to the mesmerizing emotion, your words and actions cause others to pause and take notice.  Always try to engage others with an interesting emotion because it brings about a melding of minds to dream of something more.

Overzealous: An overzealous emotion is one that shows your eagerness and enthusiasm for something or someone.  Bring that overzealous emotion into all that you do will bring more joy and passion back into your life.  Share with others your passions and happiness about things in your life and in turn ask them about theirs.  Soon you will both experience the overzealous emotion in your lives.

Nonconformist: Having a nonconformist emotion in life means you dance to the beat of your own drum.  You do not just follow others blindly in life.  You keep your independent thinking while listening to others.  Share your nonconformist emotion by always questioning the status quo and be sure to gather all known information before accepting something as truth or facts.  The world will be a better place when you use your nonconformist emotion with all things in life.

~4-Ever, P

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#BloggiteBits-Young D.E.S.I.R.E.

Young D.E.S.I.R.E.: Devoted time, Eager to please, Special feelings, Intense reaction, Reverent acts, Enthusiastic love
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Young D.E.S.I.R.E.

Oh to be young and foolish again.  Or not.  Being young has its good and bad sides.  The good: youth, energy, physical fitness, and an inconsequential mind of death.  The bad: inexperience, naivety of the world, reckless, and an inconsequential mind to death.  In this installment of the ABCs of encouragement with the #BloggiteBits Campaign, I am going to help you tap into the good parts of Young D.E.S.I.R.E. to bring some of the wonders of youth back into your life: Devoted time, Eager to please, Special feelings, Intense reaction, Reverent acts, & Enthusiastic love.

 
Devoted time: Think back, Dear Bloggites, to your youth (for some not too long ago for others it may seem like a lifetime ago).  Are you there?  Remember when you could devote your time to whatever you were currently interested in?  Be it school, family, relationships, friendships, you were able to provide total devoted time to the interest.  To tap back into your young desire for life, you just have to give your all into whatever activity you are interested in.  If you have a busy life (like most of us), look over your schedule and find a time each day to devote to the passion of choice you are currently involved in.  You will find that allowing yourself time to chase your dreams and passions, you will have a much lighter and stronger desire to embrace life.
 
Eager to please: Remember a moment in your youth where you were smitten with the puppy love that only the young experience?  That eager to please mentality found during the “puppy love” stage in relationships is actually a good thing.  Busy lives (like we all have) tend to prevent you from really getting outside yourself and into the world of others.  To tap back into your young desire and eagerness to please others, all you have to do is respond to someone in a positive way when they ask you for help or even a simple question.  Being eager to please does not mean you allow yourself to be walked all over or taken advantage of by others, it just means you show an eagerness to make someone’s day a little better by providing a simple act of kindness or service.  You will find your outlook on life begin to show a positive view on your day to day activities.
 
Special feelings: The giddiness, the joy, the butterflies, and anticipation of seeing your special someone you had a crush on when you were younger-sweet feelings, indeed!  Most people do not feel that carefree giddiness of emotions as adults, but I challenge you to reach deep inside your soul and reawaken that special feeling again.  To tap back into your special feelings, you just need to remind yourself of the good qualities of the person or people you are interacting with daily.  There is a reason you have the people you have in your life and I bet it is because of some special quality that caused your feelings to attach to each person individually.  Make an effort to focus on the special qualities of each person you are blessed to come into contact with.  Life is a gift to all of us and you will find that your view of people will be less tarnished when you actively look for the special quality of each person.
 
Intense reaction: “Shock! Thrill! Oh MY!” fills your senses throughout your body as a younger you feels that first intense reaction to someone or something.  Oh, beloved youth of yesteryear, wherever have you gone.  Nothing beats the thrill of feeling such strong, overpowering emotions that an intense reaction provides a person.  I am not just referencing a physical attraction sensation, I am referencing the sensations that course through our mind and bodies when dealing with people or situations.  Intense reactions can be a wide range of feelings.  No matter what those feelings were when you were younger, they had an impact in your life.  To tap back into your wide range of intense reactions, you just need to open up your emotional floodgate and feel each sensation.  I am sure the emotional sensations that show up are the ones we usually stomp down as we grow older: awe, joy, giddiness, appreciation, love, hope…all these positive emotions are sadly repressed as a person grows up and has to “act like an adult” in life.  Embrace those long forgotten intense reactions and be prepared to embrace a freer-feeling you.
 
Reverent acts: Reverent acts sound so serious, however, a reverent act as a young child is that of a child believing their parents are all powerful and nothing can defeat them.  I am sure you can think back on a time when you witnessed something spectacular that a parent or grandparent did.  That feeling of overwhelming love and admiration washed over you and you looked at the person who caused those emotions as if they were a fairy tale hero come to life.  The pure intellectual honesty you felt as a child is where you felt the emotions stirred by the reverent acts you witnessed.  To tap back into your reverent acts mentality, you have to open yourself up to the pure intellectual honesty and begin to see all the everyday heroes inside the people you interact with daily.
 
Enthusiastic love: Enthusiastic love was the giddy joy you felt as a child when a person you were enamored with talked to you.  Did you know, Dear Bloggites, that there is a mature kind of enthusiastic love?  Well there is.  To tap back into your mature enthusiastic love, you just have to add a little rose-colored glasses to your mind’s eye when dealing with others.  The mature enthusiastic love is the ability to embrace someone else’s success as if it was your own.  I am a firm believer that we should always build each person we engage with up to help them reach the next level of them on their journey in life.
~4-Ever, P
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#BloggiteBits-Xenophile C.O.U.R.T.E.S.Y.

Xenophile C.O.U.R.T.E.S.Y.: Civil, Obliging, Urbanity, Refined, Tactful, Elegant, Suave, Yes-Minded

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Xenophile C.O.U.R.T.E.S.Y.

Xenophile means “a person who is attracted to foreign peoples, cultures, or customs” (dictionary.com).   In this installment of the ABCs of encouragement with the #BloggiteBits Campaign, I am going to focus on Xenophile C.O.U.R.T.E.S.Y. and give some examples from different cultures on how they show courtesy to others: Civil, Obliging, Urbanity, Refined, Tactful, Elegant, Suave, & Yes-Minded.

Civil: When I think of England, one of the first things that pop into my mind (aside from the awesome humor they have) is the fact that they are so civil to each other, even if two enemies cross each other’s path, they are cordial and it amazes me.  Embrace the ability to be civil to one another, no matter how you feel about them personally, if you make it a point to be civil, it will make the interaction go much smoother and faster.

Obliging: When I think of China, one of the first things that pops into my mind is their traditional customs of respect.  Respect is shown to others by obliging their place in the world.  If a younger lady comes across an elder, she will bow out of respect in her greeting of the elder.  Having an obliging spirit toward others does not mean you let them walk all over you, it means to just respect their existence and the knowledge they bring to the table.  You may be surprised to learn something new from the most unlikely of people.

Urbanity: When I think of France, one of the first things that pops into my mind (aside from great wine and cheese) is their sense of urbanity toward each other.  Showing a respectful social attitude gives of an urban feel to a person.  Showing respectful social interactions will show your urbanity to others.  You will be amazed at how people you come into contact with on a social level will mimic your actions.

Refined: When I think of Egypt, one of the first things that pops into my head (aside from their amazing pyramids and hieroglyphics) is how refined they are as a society.  Egyptians have a respect for how their ancestors lived and have refined the customs handed down from generation to generation.  Conducting yourself in a refined manner will help you react in an even temperament with others. 

Tactful: When I think of Denmark, one of the first things that pop into my mind is their tactful way of correcting someone who is “not playing by the rules” of society.  If someone sees another acting improperly, they will immediately admonish that person in a tactful way.  Strive to show tact in all you say and do to others.  People will respond to honest tact if it is given properly.

Elegant: When I think of Morocco, one of the first things that pop into my mind is how elegant they are in their interactions with others.  Moroccans have an internal elegance in all they do and when they are communicating to others, that elegance shows.  Find your elegant calm by not reacting instinctively to situations.  Addressing others in an elegant manner will help ease any tensions that are showing and allow a fluid, peaceful communication to follow.

Suave: When I think of Italy, one of the first things that pop into my mind (and witness in my family) is how suave an Italian acts.  Bella Figura, beautiful figure / good image, is important to Italians.  Having and showing respect is important.  When engaging with others, the suave nature comes out and the recipients take notice.  Act in a suave, charming manner and you will be treated the same.

Yes-Minded: When I think of Taiwan, one of the first things that pop into my mind is their unified mindset.  Taiwanese are very group oriented, whether it is family or friends, they always find a way to compromise until there is a yes-minded factor in the entire group.  Strive to always compromise and find the yes-minded medium for all people you engage with.  You will be impressed at how easy it will be for all parties to obtain the yes-minded compromise. 

~4-Ever, P

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#BloggiteBits-Wonderful C.H.E.E.R.

Wonderful C.H.E.E.R.: Charming smile, Helpful mindset, Elated happiness, Ecstatic energy, Radiant demeanor

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Wonderful C.H.E.E.R.

The wonders of a cheerful personality, can you just imagine, Dear Bloggites?  I love the quote from Anne Frank in the picture above.  Your attitude helps shape your world and the world around you.  In one of the final installments of the ABCs of encouragement with the #BloggiteBits Campaign, I am going to help you find your Wonderful C.H.E.E.R. in the world: Charming smile, Helpful mindset, Elated happiness, Ecstatic energy, & Radiant demeanor.

Charming smile: A charming smile goes a long way to improving your mood.  If you force yourself to smile throughout the day, your mood will be altered for the better and as you continue to consciously smile when engaging others, you will find that it becomes easier and easier.  The result from others, as well as yourself, for your charming smile: better attitude, relaxed feeling, and better communication.

Helpful mindset: A helpful mindset is one you should start embracing.  In this society of distrust, finding a desire to be helpful is hard.  Consciously deciding to help at least one person each day will go a long way on helping yourself and your disposition.  People who give of themselves at times usually have a happier, cheerful life versus those who do not do anything for others, or when they have to, grumble about it.  The result from others, as well as yourself, for your helpful mindset: comfort in your life and mind, better appreciation, and internal happiness.

Elated happiness: An elated happiness is something internal you begin to feel as you embrace the steps above.  Allowing yourself to have an elated happiness becomes clear to others you encounter.  When your happiness is showing and overflowing you will see a difference in how you treat others and how they treat you.  The result from others, as well as yourself, for your elated happiness: internal joy, better treatment, and willingness to compromise.

Ecstatic energy: An ecstatic energy is similar to the elated happiness item.  Having an ecstatic energy will help invigorate your mind and imagination.  Invigorating your mind and imagination will allow you to dream and achieve goals you have for yourself.  The result from others, as well as yourself, for your ecstatic energy: achieving goals, creating new projects, and desiring to reach for the stars.

Radiant demeanor: A radiant demeanor is something that is seen from the outside world that is showing internally inside you.  When you have a radiant demeanor, you are willing to embrace others’ ideas and suggestions as well as others having a desire to embrace your ideas and suggestions.  The result from others, as well as yourself, for your radiant demeanor: Collaboration on ideas, cohesive work environment, and joy in yourself and others.

~4-Ever, P

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#BloggiteBits-Vibrant B.L.I.S.S.

Vibrant B.L.I.S.S.: Bright outlook, Lustrous confidence, Impassioned actions, Shiny soul, Spectacular demeanor

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Vibrant B.L.I.S.S.

I love vibrant things.  When I see something that just jumps out at me in a splash of color, I am captured and drawn into the world that harbors such beauty.  We all have our own splash of color we show in our daily lives.  A vibrant, blissful life can come naturally for some but for others, it is much harder and they have to work toward it each day.  In this installment of the ABCs of encouragement with the #BloggiteBits Campaign, I am going to give you some pointers on how to show your personal colors in a Vibrant B.L.I.S.S. for others to see: Bright outlook, Lustrous confidence, Impassioned actions, Shiny soul, & Spectacular demeanor.

Bright outlook: Having a bright outlook can be hard at times, however, if you strive to always find the good in each situation, you will find that your outlook is not so bleak.  To find your bright outlook, take each challenge you face and find the bright side to it.  If you work on looking for the bright side, you will eventually make it a habit and then it will become an automatic increase in your splash of color that shows for the world to see.

Lustrous confidence: A lustrous confidence is not about trying to be sexy, it is about having a brilliant confidence for the world to see.  Finding your confidence in yourself will immediately impact your splash of color in your life.  To find your lustrous confidence, you just have to embrace challenges as they come and have a “go-getter” attitude in all things you.

Impassioned actions: Impassioned actions are actions you do or show which cause people to take notice.  To find your impassioned actions, you have to stop going through life just existing, it dulls your splash of color.  If you choose to go through life showing the passion for each action you partake in, your splash of color in life will become a blinding, vibrant bliss for the world to enjoy.

Shiny soul: A shiny soul is a soul that never stops finding happiness in the world.  If you are just going through the motions of everyday life, your soul will become dull and tarnished.  To find your shiny soul, engage in your everyday life, it will keep your soul shiny and vibrantly, blissful.  A shiny soul is guaranteed to make your splash of color in life one that would make even the most beautiful butterflies jealous.

Spectacular demeanor: A spectacular demeanor is one that is larger than life when dealing with others.  To find your spectacular demeanor, make sure to always treat others with the utmost respect and manners.  No one likes to engage a rude, hateful person.  To brighten your splash of color in your vibrantly blissful life, always show manners and respect toward others, whether they deserve it (in your eyes) or not.  Finding a person with respectful manners is rare in this day and age.  Show off your vibrant bliss in life by always showing your spectacular demeanor.

~4-Ever, P