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#BloggiteBits-Be P.R.E.S.E.N.T.

Be P.R.E.S.E.N.T.: Pay attention, Respond openly, Express thoughts, Speak kindly, Embrace feelings, Never ignore, Treat fairly

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Be P.R.E.S.E.N.T.

In this second installation (albeit delayed) of the ABCs of encouragement with the #BloggiteBits Campaign, I want everyone to Be P.R.E.S.E.N.T. when interacting with others: Pay attention, Respond openly, Express thoughts, Speak kindly, Embrace feelings, Never ignore, & Treat fairly.

 Pay attention: When people interact with each other in this technological age, they really do not engage or pay attention to the person they are “interacting” with.  People are so wired in to their social media that they tend to disregard the importance of being with someone.  When you are spending time with a person, pay attention to what they are saying.  Nothing on your phone is more important that validating the person you are physically with by listening and paying attention.  Remember, Attention to one another always helps validate our lives.

Respond openly: One of the best relationships to cultivate is one of pure, loving honesty.  When you are engaging someone, always respond to them in an open manner to let them know that you care and want to hear what they have going on in their life.  The way the world is today, it is usually safest to keep yourself guarded, but when dealing with personal relationships, that guard must be put down and you must respond in an open manner if you want the relationship to truly flourish and change each other.  An open demeanor is always inviting and appreciated.

Express thoughts:  Social media has been the downfall of expressing thoughts in a tactful way.  It is easy to express negative, hateful thoughts to the world without a face.  This is not good if you want to grow strong, honest relationships with friends, family, or anyone.  When you are engaged one on one with someone, express thoughts about the subject being discussed.  As nice as it is to have someone just listen, it is that much nicer when that person becomes part of the discussion by expressing what they think.  By expressing thoughts on the topic at hand, you are letting that person know that you are hearing what they are saying and are truly listening to the conversation.  Thoughts are better shared in a tactful, loving way.

Speak kindly: As I touched a little on the negative effects of social media when interacting with others, I will reiterate the need to always speak kindly to others.  You do not know what that person you are interacting with online or in person is truly going through, and a kind word spoken gently to them will have such a positive impact on their life, one that you may never realize.  Just as it takes one negative word to take a life, it also takes just one kind word to save one.  Kind words cause a positive ripple effect in the social world and will always be paid forward to others.

Embrace feelings: I am one of those people that instinctively react in a logical, cool demeanor, however, I try to always embrace my feelings I am going through at the time.  Embracing feelings allows a person to fully understand where they are at in their life.  If you embrace your feelings while interacting with others, your ability to engage all understanding will be heightened.  When you are talking with someone and you are overwhelmed with an emotion, embrace it and share it with the person you are talking to.  Expressing the feelings will help that person understand where you are in your life and at that moment in time while talking to them.  Feelings are meant to be expressed, shared, and embraced to fully live your life.

Never ignore: No one likes to be ignored.  I have yet to meet someone that says they like being ignored over having attention given to them.  When you are spending time with someone, do not ignore them or dismiss them for social media stuff.  Being present in life means engaging it and people.  Never ignore your present interaction for something unimportant.  Life is meant to be lived.  Ignoring a person will never help that relationship grow into something strong and life-changing.

Treat fairly: When you are dealing with someone, treat them fairly.  No one wants to be mistreated or feel taken advantage of.  Treat people fairly in life.  There is too much hate and unfair treatment in this world.  People are so self-involved in this “me” society that they do not think they are expected to be fair.  Be the exception.  Fair treatment of others always impacts their lives.

~4-Ever, P

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#BloggiteBits-Achieve P.E.A.C.E.

Achieve P.E.A.C.E.: Patience with others, Extend a helping hand, Always smile, Choose your words wisely, Enjoy each moment.

#BloggiteBits-Achieving Peace
Achieve P.E.A.C.E.

For my Bloggite Bits Campaign, I will be doing the ABCs of encouragement.  Today’s #BloggiteBits is a little ditty about how people can Achieve P.E.A.C.E. in their lives by doing these five little acts: Patience with others, Extend a helping hand, Always smile, Choose your words wisely, & Enjoy each moment.

Patience with others:  We all have had trouble finding patience at some point in our life.  Be it work, family, friends, or even the guy in the car in front of you driving too slow for your liking.  Patience is something everyone wishes they had more of.  When you are interacting with others and you begin to feel your patience waning, try and place yourself in that person’s shoes and view the conversation from their eyes.  It is a hard task to do, but the more you try, the easier it becomes.  Finding patience within oneself for others allows you to flourish within your own life.

Extend a helping hand: So many people in this day and age do not have time to do anything for others except what is required of them.  I do not believe it is a lack of understanding (there are some exceptions) but more of a time constraint with all the demands in their life.  When you see someone struggling, whether it is financially, personally, or work wise, take that opportunity to extend that helping hand before they ask for it.  If more people reach out before being asked to do something, I believe the overall attitude will show more gratitude for being in the position to help someone in need.  Helping others always gives a sense of purpose in life that is outside of oneself.

Always smile: This is a simple one.  Anytime a person smiles it releases several chemical reactions in their brain that immediately helps reduce stress, relaxes the body, and has an overall positive effect on one’s mood.  Aside from what it does for the person doing the smiling, it also causes others to stop and smile back thus releasing the same feel-good chemicals in the other person.  Smiling is a win-win for all.  Even in difficult or sad times, a person can always find something to smile about even if it is just the simple fact that the difficult or sad situation is almost at an end.  I always say I would rather go through life smiling and dancing than being sad and down on life.

Choose your words wisely: I think this is one of the hardest things for people to do.  Most people instinctively react to unknown situations brought on by another in a defensive, negative way in order to preserve their personal bubble of safety.  By not reacting out of instinct and taking a moment to assess the situation, a person can formulate a proper, non-aggressive response to the other person involved.  When you come into contact with another person, try and think of ways to encourage and uplift that person in a positive way before moving on in your daily activities.  You will be surprised at how much better you will feel plus how better each person you come into contact with will act toward you in the future.  Positivity persuades while negativity delays.

Enjoy each moment: I bet you were expecting the last E in P.E.A.C.E to say, “Enjoy Every Moment” instead…LOL  I chose the word ‘each’ over ‘every’ for one simple reason.  Each, to me, designates one incident, whereas ‘every’ designates a group of incidents.  I know they are synonyms, however, I like the feel of ‘each’ in this final achievement of peace. 🙂  Enjoying each moment will allow you to fully immerse yourself in the situation you are experiencing.  Be it good or bad, each moment will impact your life in some way.  By finding the joy and enjoying the moment, you will be a changed person in the end.  The change may be noticeable immediately or it may not show up until a later date, but rest assured, each moment you live of your life has an impact on your future moments as well as your future reactions to the next ‘big’ event.  Life is about the little things, we can all embrace a large event, but embracing the little ones makes your life more fulfilling and enjoyable.

~4-Ever, P