Posted in This & That

Did You Miss Me?

May 9, 2018.  That was the last time I posted here Dear Bloggites.  Seven long months of silence.  I am sorry for that.  I was dealing with stuff and things called Life and Life Choices.  It sounds better “stuff and things” because “life and life choices” sounds so beat down and serious!

Let me give you a rundown of what my seven months looked like in a quick eggshell – staring off into the distance 

June 2018 – Business was struggling and I had to make a choice to find a job working for “The Man” again.  Let me tell you it was a rough decision to make because I have had my own business since 2012 and basically did whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted and had to answer to no one.

July 2018 – “The Man” found me and offered me a job working from home (good), decent pay (also good), and mega bonuses (great!).  I was basically doing the same stuff I did when I worked at Mid-Ohio Field Services as a Reginal Manage but in this job I was just an Account Manager and worked the new client for Radius Property Services.  This client was growing like weeds and the company found a need for someone to just manage that account, enter Peggy (Me).

August 2018 – Still worked for “The Man” but I found myself very miserable.  I loved the work, the contractors, and the client, but the people I answered to for my job were in a tug of war over handling me.  The one boss/owner who hired me loved me to death and I could do no wrong.  This was great except his brought-on partner felt threatened.  So anytime she heard praise from him about me, she went out of her way to try and make me look bad, thus causing him to question my ability to do the job.

September 2018 – Still the pawn in the sick tug of war between owners.  I was able to add my sister, 4 of 7 (need clarity on this name read A Daughter’s Journey with Her Dad: The Twist), as a part-time processor because we were so busy with the client I managed.  The micro-managing started with the owners and the work I was doing.  Yeah, if you know me, I do not do micro-managing – I don’t do it and I don’t tolerate it being done to me.

October 2018 – The fast-growing company I managed announced that they were closing their doors.  Not uncommon in the industry of Property Preservation (which is why I hate the industry), so this left my boss at a quandary.  You know how I was able to hire 4 of 7? Yeah, had to let her go and I told her that unless the company I worked for was picked up as a contractor by the new company that bought out my current account, my time was limited as well.

November 2018 – My statement to 4 of 7 came true and I was laid off in the middle of October by “The Man”.  There was not enough work within the company to blend me in plus they were paying a good chunk of money for me AND the threatened boss took the opportunity to get rid of me.  It was all for the good, I was miserable and hated the job.  While I needed to go look for another job, I had money squirreled away to give me a cushion and take my time to find a job.  This decision to take it easy was apparently my body’s queue to make me sick – ALL MONTH LONG!

December 2018 – Hidey-Ho, we are now back to the future – returning from staring off into the distance – I am no longer sick, Thank GOD!  I started a new part-time job yesterday, December 13, 2018.  I will be working as a caregiver for home bound clients trying to stay in their homes during their twilight years.

As many of you know, there are three things near and dear to my heart: the homeless, the elderly, and the ability to build up others on a daily basis.  So, this job will allow me to care for the elderly while still having time to work on my writing, blogging (EGADS – I SAID IT! or wrote it…) and building out my YouTube Channel into something that will allow me to work on the other two things: the homeless and building up others on a daily basis.

Well, that is it for now.  I have another blog post coming out about one of my favorite group of Monkeys in my Tribal Circus right after this one.  Hope you are ready to hear from me more regularly, heck, I hope I am finally ready to communicate more regularly. 🙂 Smooches!!!

~4-Ever, P

Posted in Encouragement, Writer Musings

Forgiveness vs Reconciliation

A couple of weeks ago I was driving in my car and the program I was listening to was discussing forgiveness and reconciliation.  Listening to this program made me really begin to analyze the difference between the two and the impact each has on a person’s life.

According to dictionary.com, the definition of forgiveness means: 1. act of forgiving or being forgiven and 2. disposition or willingness to forgive.  The definition of reconciliation, according to dictionary.com, means: 1. act of reconciling, as when former enemies agree to an amicable truce, 2. the state of being reconciled, as when someone becomes resigned to something not desired, and 3. the process of making consistent or compatible.

Reconciliation requires two or more people to find a common ground when a situation occurs that causes issues between them.  A person may say that they have “reconciled” themselves to something that happened to them, but the reality is, unless that person has found the restoration or harmony with another, they have not truly been able to finalize the whole situation to put it to rest in their life.  Two or more people must want the reconciliation of a situation for that situation to find a resolution.

Forgiveness, which can occur between two or more people, is really a singular act for each person.  A person who refuses to find forgiveness for someone or something that has caused them pain or wrongdoing, allows the other party to live rent free in their head.  I say this because, when you refuse to let go of the pain, hurt, and damage done against you, you force yourself to live in that moment every day of your life and allow it to control you and all your decisions you make.

“I’m sorry” is a hard statement to make and many times even harder to accept.  Hearing this statement does not take the pain, wrongdoing, and damage away.  Even if you cannot reconcile yourself with the person that caused the hurt, you can choose to forgive that person.  It is only with the forgiving that you can truly begin to heal.

The state of forgiveness is where you find the freedom to move past the pain, wrongdoing, and damage that is causing you to suffer.  Forgiveness takes away the “live here rent free” sign in your head.  Learning to forgive any pain, damage, or wrongdoing done against you will allow your body and mind to begin to heal.

You may never forget the pain, damage, or wrongdoing done against you and you may never be able to reconcile the situation with the person that caused the harm, but when you allow yourself to forgive, that pain will become less; that damage will begin to mend; and that wrongdoing will begin to fade as each day goes by.  You will begin to feel the sensation of the freedom you are allowing yourself when you choose to forgive.  After all, you deserve to be free mind, body, and soul. 🙂

Do you struggle with one or both of these things in your life, Dear Bloggite?  How have you handled situations or people in the past who caused you to hurt?  Share your thoughts and experiences, and together, we will work through it.

~4-Ever, P

Posted in Writer Musings

Slow And Steady…

Hello, Dear Bloggites. 🙂  I am happy to let you know that change is happening, slowly and surely, the change is going to happen.  This change is leading toward reaching some more goals that I set back in 2017 and renewed in 2018.

Change 3 Update: My current business is surviving this lull in the industry and seems to finally have bounced back…continue to find ways to build income from this business – I am glad and sad to say my coworker has found another job due to the reduction in work orders.  I am glad for him and his new journey, but sad, because he has helped me build my business and we have worked together for the past few years.  I know he will have great success in his new journey. 🙂

Change 3 Update: I will find myself on my own again with my son, the dog, and the guinea pig with no roommate for the first time in, geez, years – Because of the new job status for my coworker, it puts me one step closer to being on my own again.  With the drive he has to make each day, and with the steady increase in income, it will allow him to find his own place in a few months. 🙂

As you can see, I just wanted to check in with y’all and let you know what is going on.  It has been a couple of days since I blogged last, but this one puts me back on schedule.  I am excited about the new changes taking place and I hope you will continue with me on this awesome journey! 🙂

What exciting changes are happening in your life?  Share in the comments below.  Look forward to chatting with you. 🙂

~4-Ever, P

Posted in Book Review

Book Review: It Tickled The Whiskers Of My Soul by Rebecca Rose

“It took me a long time to learn that not all pain is pointless.” ~Rebecca Rose (in It Tickled the Whiskers of My Soul)

It Tickled the Whiskers of My Soul by Rebecca RoseHello, Dear Bloggites!  I know, I was supposed to make a post yesterday, but I intentionally delayed it for today because I am bringing you a special book review.  The author, Rebecca Rose, emailed me offering her latest book for free if I was willing to give an honest review of it after I was finished.  Of course, I do my best to never turn down a request for a review, but this one was extra special because I “met” Rebecca via email when she published her first book, I’ll Be Fine, and requested a review.

I loved that story so much, that I talk about it to this day!  So, of course, I jumped at the opportunity to read her newest release, It Tickled the Whiskers of My Soul.  This is the author’s third book but second published under her name.  This book is a story of what the author has learned over time about life, belief, and self.  The book is formatted into a separate “love letter” for each topic.

This book was written in a loving, intimate style that made you feel as if you were sitting with the author while she explained what she has learned from life.  The pictures are a joy and will bring a smile to your face even if you think you are the grumpiest person alive.  Each letter has a theme in it and the author goes into detail about what journey she took to realized that specific theme i.e. true self, fear, laws of attraction, intention, etc.

I loved that even though this book is on spirituality, it is not preachy or skewed to one view or another, so it is written for all to read.  I enjoyed reading how the author found her way through situations and time.  So many people do not view “bad” or “hard” times as a learning experience and I think this book would help people realize that even though the situation may be less than optimal, it is always better in the end.

I give It Tickled The Whiskers Of My Soul by Rebecca Rose 5 out of 5 Bookmarks!  Great read for people looking for ways to deal with life. 🙂

P.S.  THANK YOU, Rebecca, for the Honor of reviewing your book! 🙂

~4-Ever, P

Posted in Writer Musings

I Love It When A Plan Comes Together

Admit it, before you watched the video you heard Hannibal saying the title of this blog post, I know you did! 🙂  Today’s post is about what the title says: plans falling into place and coming together.

I spent all day in the wonderful presence of many writers and people on fire for Christ, Dear Bloggites.  I was invited to join Roaring Lambs organization’s testimonial workshop and then stay for Roaring Writers executive committee luncheon.  I met, Debbie Snell, at a Christian Networking Breakfast that I went to with my best friend and owner of InSpeyer HR, Tracy.

After chatting a bit with Debbie, she told me she thought we could totally work together in one way or the other after she found out about my PAC Wordsmith business and author site.  The next day after the luncheon, Debbie called me and invited me to join them today to see what we can do.

It was an Amazing time I spent with Debbie and several others, some whom I already knew, and many whom I just met today (or the day I met Debbie).  I partnered with them to help grow the Roaring Writers group to help Christian writers get their books out to the world.  I love words (as you all know) and I love Christ, so you can just imagine how stoked I am about this new opportunity! 🙂

This is just another step to the road of writing full time and engulfing myself in all things written.  I am still working my processing business, Legacy Preservation, and will continue with my current clients, but with the drying up of the property preservation industry, I am finding that I need to find additional revenue to make up for the loss of money.  Having that additional revenue come from one of my two passions, writing, just makes it that much better.

As I move forward with Roaring Writers, I will keep all of you updated.  It is just Unbelievable when a plan does come together!  Smooches!

~4-Ever, P

Posted in Encouragement, Writer Musings

Your Outlook On Life

Have you ever listened to your internal thoughts?  You know the ones, Dear Bloggites, the little voice in your head constantly telling you this and that on everything you do in life.

I love to learn; and when I learn some interesting facts or a new thought process, I take notice.  I am that person that hopes for the best and plans for the worst.  Having that type of outlook on life, for me, allows me to enjoy the little things in life while being prepared for the unexpected.

That little voice or internal thought is my joy and pain.  My joy because I know I can do anything I set my mind to do and usually when I make up my mind to do something, I rarely change it.  But on the flip side of that, the inner thoughts are my pain.  I am constantly catching myself doing negative speak in my head.  You know the kind – “You’re an idiot”, “Stupid”, “Ugly”, etc.  I hear them all the time trying to take forefront in my brain and it is a constant battle for me.

If you have ever spent five minutes with me, you will probably be surprised by this admission, but it is true.  The negativity bleeds in my brain about myself a lot and I am constantly having to patch up the wound.  That is why most people would be shocked to know that I even have one negative thought in my brain because I CHOOSE to embrace this Journey called Life and so whenever I hear the negative monster stomping up the isle in my mind, I slam the door shut and repeat positive thoughts that void the negative.

Doing this trick – changing the negative to the positive – is hard because you must make a conscious effort to really listen to your mind and thoughts all the time.  Some days are harder than other days, but I keep the fight going because at the end of the day, I want to look at myself in the mirror and know I did right by everyone I was in contact with as well as doing right by myself.

What do you struggle with and how do you deal with it?  Share your thoughts below.  I look forward to chatting with you.

~4-Ever, P

Posted in Writer Musings

Easter Musings

Happy Easter, Ya’ll! 🙂  Today was a rare day and a glorious one.

I will start on the rare day first:

Today was a rare day because work was actually closed all day!  Last time we closed was on Christmas Day, so I decided we were off on Easter Sunday.  It was really nice to not have to get up and load the computer and start processing orders.  I was able to turn off my regular alarm, lazily wake up, and then have cuddle time with my dog, Ragonk.  I went to Bible Study class, then spent the afternoon with family.  It was wonderful!  I truly believe the mind and body need rest and with the industry that my business is in, it prevents that ability due to being a seven-day a week industry.  I feel the pressure of working seven days.  I am trying to create boundaries to allow my mind and body to get the needed rest and today was a first step on that journey. 🙂

What do you do to get the rest for your mind and body, Dear Bloggite?  Share your thoughts in the comments below.

Now, onto the glorious one:

Being a Christian, today I celebrated the Risen Christ after His crucifixion and three-days in the tomb.  Today reminds believers that Christ is alive and well and He has overcome death.  I have many friends who are Christians and many who are not, and one of the biggest differences I see in these two types of friends is the fear of death.  When you are not a believer in Christ, you view death as an ending with nothingness after.  When you are a believer in Christ, death is just the beginning of a life everlasting with Christ.  As a believer, I do not fear death, I welcome it when it is my time to go because I know I will go to a better place than this Earth.  That knowledge is so refreshing and having that knowledge, I rejoice in the life people lived after they pass and rejoice in their life everlasting if they are a believer.  It is amazing to be free of the fear of death and I wish everyone could feel that. 😀

What do you believe in, Dear Bloggites?  Do you celebrate life and death, or do you live with the fear of death each day of your life?  Share your belief in the comments below.

~4-Ever, P