Posted in #BloggiteBits Campaign

#BloggiteBits-Tranquil W.O.R.L.D.

Tranquil W.O.R.L.D.: Wistfully serene, One with peace, Restful nature, Leisurely style, Deliberate calmness

#BloggiteBits-Tranquil World
Tranquil W.O.R.L.D.

Calm is the Heart, Tranquil is the Mind.  I love this statement.  It is my saying I tell myself every morning when I wake up to start my day.  This world is so hectic and go, go, go all the time, I have to make myself remember that I am in control of my world.  In this installment of the ABCs of encouragement with the #BloggiteBits Campaign, I am going to tell you how I choose to live in my Tranquil W.O.R.L.D. while life rushes all around me: Wistfully serene, One with peace, Restful nature, Leisurely style, & Deliberate calmness.

Wistfully serene: Wistful.  Such a wonderful word that is hardly ever heard of now.  Serene, just saying the word and you can feel the tranquility overcome you.  When I wake up in the morning, I remind myself that there is only so much I have control over that happens throughout the day and I need to accept the things I have no control over.  I also remind myself that putting my mind in a wistfully serene mode when faced with things out of my control will help me keep control over my responses.  This little exercise goes a long way in assuring I maintain a tranquil world.  Try some of your own personal encouraging mantras when you wake up and see how it affects your day.

One with peace: Peace.  We all preach “let there be peace in the world” but how many of you allow yourself to be one with peace in your personal life?  Each day I remind myself that I will intentionally keep myself one with peace.  I say intentionally because peace has to be intentional.  People default to defense when faced with things that make them feel uncomfortable, so in order to fight that default you have to intentionally channel the peace within.  I am not going to lie, Dear Bloggites, it is a challenge for me to channel my inner peace when I have to deal with the personal challenges that are surrounding my life with my loved ones, but I do make it a point.  Funny, I find it easier to become one with peace than I do raging against the disease, but it can be challenging.  I do not let it stop me, I always find that peace in the end and my tranquil world is once again in my control.

Restful nature: Restful.  Having a tranquil world helps you have a restful nature, however, having a restful nature will improve your tranquil world.  I know, strange statement; but basically, a restful nature and a tranquil world go hand-in-hand.  If you find you are restless, try and do something that will help you relax.  Reading is a good go-to for me when I feel restless.  I have many things around me that I can pick up and do in order to regain my restful nature.  Make a list of things that you know relaxes you and try and surround yourself with a few, if not all, of these things to turn to on bad days.

Leisurely style: Leisure.  Most of us tend to go all out from the moment we wake up until we go back to bed.  A tranquil world needs a leisurely style from you each day.  My leisurely style time is late at night once I go to my bedroom.  I am a very active person mentally and slowing my mind down to a leisurely pace is hard.  I make sure to unplug from the world once I go to my bedroom and allow my mind to decompress either by reading or listening to a good book.  As my mind focuses on the story unfolding, it begins to slow down to my leisurely style of thinking.  Find your leisurely style to tap into each day, it will help your tranquil world to flow over you.

Deliberate calmness: Calm.  Just saying the word out loud relaxes me.  Like peace, calmness requires a deliberate, intentional mental act on your part.  To find your tranquil world, you need to embrace a deliberate calmness when life throws those screw balls at you.  Each day, before I walk into a new situation, I take a deep breath and let it out slowly while mentally calming my mind and body down.  I do this from the simple act of shopping in a store (which I do not like to do) to walking into the latest visit to my Paternal Half’s (Dad’s/Dah’s) Oncologist’s office.  It only takes a moment to find your deliberate calmness each time and you will find your tranquil world waiting for you.

~4-Ever, P

Posted in #BloggiteBits Campaign

#BloggiteBits-Achieve P.E.A.C.E.

Achieve P.E.A.C.E.: Patience with others, Extend a helping hand, Always smile, Choose your words wisely, Enjoy each moment.

#BloggiteBits-Achieving Peace
Achieve P.E.A.C.E.

For my Bloggite Bits Campaign, I will be doing the ABCs of encouragement.  Today’s #BloggiteBits is a little ditty about how people can Achieve P.E.A.C.E. in their lives by doing these five little acts: Patience with others, Extend a helping hand, Always smile, Choose your words wisely, & Enjoy each moment.

Patience with others:  We all have had trouble finding patience at some point in our life.  Be it work, family, friends, or even the guy in the car in front of you driving too slow for your liking.  Patience is something everyone wishes they had more of.  When you are interacting with others and you begin to feel your patience waning, try and place yourself in that person’s shoes and view the conversation from their eyes.  It is a hard task to do, but the more you try, the easier it becomes.  Finding patience within oneself for others allows you to flourish within your own life.

Extend a helping hand: So many people in this day and age do not have time to do anything for others except what is required of them.  I do not believe it is a lack of understanding (there are some exceptions) but more of a time constraint with all the demands in their life.  When you see someone struggling, whether it is financially, personally, or work wise, take that opportunity to extend that helping hand before they ask for it.  If more people reach out before being asked to do something, I believe the overall attitude will show more gratitude for being in the position to help someone in need.  Helping others always gives a sense of purpose in life that is outside of oneself.

Always smile: This is a simple one.  Anytime a person smiles it releases several chemical reactions in their brain that immediately helps reduce stress, relaxes the body, and has an overall positive effect on one’s mood.  Aside from what it does for the person doing the smiling, it also causes others to stop and smile back thus releasing the same feel-good chemicals in the other person.  Smiling is a win-win for all.  Even in difficult or sad times, a person can always find something to smile about even if it is just the simple fact that the difficult or sad situation is almost at an end.  I always say I would rather go through life smiling and dancing than being sad and down on life.

Choose your words wisely: I think this is one of the hardest things for people to do.  Most people instinctively react to unknown situations brought on by another in a defensive, negative way in order to preserve their personal bubble of safety.  By not reacting out of instinct and taking a moment to assess the situation, a person can formulate a proper, non-aggressive response to the other person involved.  When you come into contact with another person, try and think of ways to encourage and uplift that person in a positive way before moving on in your daily activities.  You will be surprised at how much better you will feel plus how better each person you come into contact with will act toward you in the future.  Positivity persuades while negativity delays.

Enjoy each moment: I bet you were expecting the last E in P.E.A.C.E to say, “Enjoy Every Moment” instead…LOL  I chose the word ‘each’ over ‘every’ for one simple reason.  Each, to me, designates one incident, whereas ‘every’ designates a group of incidents.  I know they are synonyms, however, I like the feel of ‘each’ in this final achievement of peace. 🙂  Enjoying each moment will allow you to fully immerse yourself in the situation you are experiencing.  Be it good or bad, each moment will impact your life in some way.  By finding the joy and enjoying the moment, you will be a changed person in the end.  The change may be noticeable immediately or it may not show up until a later date, but rest assured, each moment you live of your life has an impact on your future moments as well as your future reactions to the next ‘big’ event.  Life is about the little things, we can all embrace a large event, but embracing the little ones makes your life more fulfilling and enjoyable.

~4-Ever, P