Posted in Writer Musings

365 Opportunities

A few days ago, I noticed a comic posting on my Aunt’s Facebook page.  It made me pause and think.  I have started my blog posts each year with words or plans on how I want my year to be.  Each year, I have met some goals but also have failed in many others.  Especially in my writing life.

When I saw this post, it spoke to me on a very deep level.  I know, Dear Bloggites, you are thinking “comics affecting you on a deep level…uh huh…” but that is what it did!  This simple two frame comic gave me my word and my focus and my hope!

365 Opportunities
Be Happy Facebook Page-Creator Unknown

I am all about building others up and viewing life, no, not life, viewing A DAY as an opportunity to build someone up, no matter how small; I realized I would not only enrich my life but the life of others around me, even for just a moment when helping others build their life up.  But having that positive outlook for others when it comes to encouragement of actions in life, I realize I do not share that mindset for myself in my writing life.

No matter what I do, I seem to allow my writing goals fall to the wayside.  I hear people say all the time that if you really want something, it will be important, and you will make a point to get/do it as much as you can.  I agree with this, but I also disagree with this statement.  I love to write and can fall into the world I am creating and exist there for many hours when I am writing, but I realize that it is the sitting down and starting that is holding me back.

I freeze up just at the thought of writing something.  All the negative mental talk starts screaming in my head and it screams so loud that it drowns out the thought of writing and forces me to do something else.  I hate this!  I have self-love with my abilities and actions, but when it comes to writing, that self-love is so stifled that I question why I even bother to try to write anything.

That is the crux of writing for me.  I KNOW no one has my voice on subjects and I KNOW that whatever I write is mine and mine alone to share with the world as I see fit; however, the KNOWING is not enough to combat the negativity of “Who do YOU think you are to even believe YOU have anything to say to ANYONE that will IMPACT their life.  GET OVER YOURSELF!”

This negative self-talk is what creates the freeze factor for me at the thought of writing anything.  I am working on this and the comic strip above is going to be my help.  I am going to take it one day at a time and just make sure I write something even for just five minutes and then at the end of 2019, I can honestly say, “I DO have something to say to ANYONE willing to listen and I KNOW it will IMPACT their life, if only for the simple fact that it is something a person can relate to within their life when reading my words.

My word for this year is Opportunity.  I am going to take the 365 Opportunities to enrich as many people as I can, one day at a time AND enrich myself as much as I can with my words being penned to paper.  Happy New Year! Smooches!

~4-Ever, P

Posted in Writer Musings

New Year, New Start 2017

Hello, Dear Bloggites!  If I plan this right, I will post this right at Midnight.  As you all know, I have had some major personal challenges with My Dad’s illness and ultimate passing, so my life as I knew it was put on hold to care for him.  Since his passing, I have felt like I am floundering.  I am at peace knowing he is in heaven with the Good Lord, pain free, and partying with the J-Dude, yet my heart and soul have a deep hole that has yet to begin to heal.

This afternoon, someone posted one of those silly tests you see all the time on Facebook.  This one was a crossword puzzle with the statement that the first word(s) you see will define your 2017 (paraphrasing here on the actual description/directions).  I saw three words right away which got me thinking.  These words may have come from a silly test, but I can see how they do define my plans for this upcoming year.  Those three words were (in order): Change, Passion, Luck.

Change: I do plan on changing much in my life this New Year.  Living wise, alone at last; Health wise, both physical and mental; Work wise, continue to grow my current business and build my wordsmith business; Social wise, beat this reclusive mode and get back out in the world with family and friends.

Change 1: I will find myself on my own again with my son, the dog, and the guinea pig with no roommate for the first time in, geez, years.  This is a wonderful feeling for me.  I have always loved my independence and even though having a roommate is a good financial help, it kills my independence.

Change 2: I have been paying for a gym membership for the past year and have not utilized it due to my Father’s poor health and work demands.  I am going to utilize this gym membership to change my health for the better and reach the weight I am happiest at once again.

Change 3: My current business is surviving this lull in the industry and seems to finally have bounced back to allow the financial freedom of working at home to continue.  I will continue to find ways to build income from this business.

Change 4: I am going to take advantage of the social invites I get and start actually going!  I will find the balance to be able to focus on work yet still build my social life I used to enjoy before opening a business.

Passion: I am Italian, I ooze passion but lately my pores have been blocked up.  I still love life but the passion for it was extremely dimmed with the passing of my Dad.  I do plan on reigniting the passionate love affair I hold for life in my professional and personal worlds.

Passion 1: I have a wordsmith business that until recently, has just been a hobby because I have a passionate love affair with anything associated with the written word.  I plan on growing this business up, one client at a time and look forward to the new relationships I shall make along the way.

Passion 2: I am now looking at taking myself seriously as a writer and growing this part of me on a personal level.  All my life I have written in some form or another to comfort my soul.  From journaling my exciting life as a kid to adult all the way to having started my own novel in hopes of publishing.  My goal is to sign up for some form of writing class each month to build my talent as a writer and start opening doors to the publishing world to promote myself as a writer.

Luck: I feel luck is created by opportunities in my life.  I find the possibilities and opportunities and from there luck grows.  Who doesn’t want luck in their life, heck they even have a sayings for it, “Luck, you’re either born with it or you are not.” or “You either have good luck or bad luck.” etc.

Luck 1: I know with every situation I face, I will need a little luck in finding my way.  The luck will come from determination and communication.  I am determined to see my goals through any time I create them and will stop at nothing to reach them because I always strive to reach the new level of me.  Communication with other like-minded individuals on a professional and personal level will help me find the lucky contact that will help me reach the next level of me on my journey to build my businesses.

Luck 2: Waking up every morning and shaking off the empty hole in my heart and soul and just start finding things to fill my time outside work.  My current business demands so much of my time daily, that I tend to just stay home and do nothing when the office is ‘closed’ but no more.  Even if it is just getting up, putting on my clothes (no joke, you do not understand how easy it is to just stay in my PJs while working from home, it is after all one of the perks), doing my face (new skin regiments starts on the 1st of January), and going for a drive to the country to sit in a field.

These three items being the words I saw in the silly little test, I am reminded of my above planned goals I have been making for myself.  See, I don’t believe in resolutions, they are made to be broken, but planned goals are something you work toward and are not made to be broken.  Goals are simply a future achievement of the next level of you.  I like that image in my head, so goals are my thing, not resolutions.

My goals associated with the three words are pretty simple, yet complex at the same time.  Change is unavoidable in life and I have some major changes ahead of me as you can see.  Everything that happens in life causes change and I look forward to it, heck, I not only look forward to it, I anticipate it with great passion, and luck!

There you have it, Dear Bloggites, my thoughts on the upcoming New Year and all the wonderful new experiences it holds.  We live in a wonderful world, because after all, we are blessed every day we wake up and breathe in the new day.  I plan on embracing that world with all my heart and soul and I hope you enjoy experiencing these things along the way as I share them with you!

Happy New Year!  Keep Being.  Keep Experiencing.  Keep Sharing.  Keep Trekking. 🙂

~4-Ever, P

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Feeling Feisty

Hello, Dear Bloggites, I am feeling feisty today! 😉  I was sitting here at home, bored out of my mind because I actually found down time, and decided to give in to the curiosity bug.  My good friend, Mary (say Hi, Mary!), is always talking about this one site where she connects with old and new friends.  This site seems to have opened a fun and interesting world for her and I just wanted to know what all the hype was about.

So, me, being me, decided to open an account on this site….I know…trouble, trouble, trouble, especially with me feeling feisty! 😉  I open this account, and within seconds, I have all these notifications and messages…it was a major ego boost I am telling you! LOL

Several of these guys are in my area of town…hmm…trouble, trouble, trouble…and one even offered to come over to my place and help me figure out the site…yeah…okay…raincheck, dude! LOL What he does not know is NO ONE knows where I live and there is a reason for that…I have my son and my brother and sister-in-law who live with me and I do not mix my social life with my family life…just don’t do it…so don’t ask to find out where I live because I won’t tell you. 🙂

This site is very fun and the people I have met so far seem rather nice…some are just friendly, some are just flirty, some are just horny, and some are just liking my profile picture….Ha!  I am pretty sure I am going to enjoy this site and I know my ego definitely does!

Well, Toodles for now, until next time, have an UberGoofy Day!

~4-Ever, P