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Choices

All of my life I have been faced with decision after decision and making choices one way or the other.  I am sure, Dear Bloggites, that you have all been in this situation, it is called LIFE.  Throughout my life, every active choice I made had a specific reaction to it.  As my boys were growing up (and now my GrandKiddos), I always said this phrase, “For every action you make, there is a reaction, be it good or bad.” to remind them that their choices in life affect many things and not just one thing they are deciding on.

I have made plenty of bad choices in my lifetime but not all the bad choices had bad outcomes.  Both my boys were from choices I made when I was younger, and I do not regret those decisions in the least bit.  My life has been so enriched by my sons and will continue to be enriched for as long as I live.  I thank God every day for my boys and how well they turned out in spite of who raised them (me).

I have also made plenty of good choices in my lifetime and I continue to reap the benefits from those daily.  One of the greatest choices I made in my lifetime was to accept Christ as my Lord and Savior.  He has always seen me through, even when I had not accepted Him, and He continues to see me through daily.  Now, I still struggle with my timing verses His timing, but in the end, what is meant to happen, happens according to His plan for my life.

I am faced with some choices right now.  I do not know the current outcome because I have not made any decisions, but knowing the result of some of the decisions, I have put contingency plans into place.  That is something I recommend everyone doing, always have a contingency plan.  While one of my favorite phrases is the “For every action there is a reaction, be it good or bad” my ultimate phrase that I say and do is, “Hope for the best, prepare for the worst.”

choicesHoping for the best is a no brainer, everyone has hope the best, ultimate outcome will happen, unfortunately, the ‘best’ outcome is usually some form of happy ending in their life, but that is not always the case.  Sometimes the ‘best’ outcome is having to say good-bye to someone or something you love because you know it is for the best.  The best-case scenario I had to face was when my Dad was dying of Cancer.  I did not want to see him pass away, but I KNEW he would be better off if he did die.  This may sound heartless to some of you, but he accepted Christ as his Lord and Savior and I knew if my Dad died here on Earth, he would be in heaven celebrating a new body that will never give out on him.

Preparing for the worst is the hard part on my ultimate phrase of “Hope for the best, prepare for the worst” because no one wants to face or deal with the worst-case scenario.  The death of a loved one, to many, is the worst-case scenario.  But preparing for the worst-case scenario forces you to think of all the possible outcomes of a situation and decide on which choice would be best to take if faced with the worst-case situation.  I am at that point right now.

I have many choices to make in the next couple of months.  These choices have good and bad outcomes, but I still have to make them.  In order for me to move forward in life for myself, my Autistic son, and my dog, I have to decide which choice to do so when and if I am faced with the worst case scenario, I will have my contingency plan in place and make that decision when the time comes.

I challenge you, Dear Bloggites, think about the choices you have made in your past and all the different possible outcomes that could have happened if the current one you are in did not take place.  Then, think about your life and what you want in the future.  Make some choices and plan the contingency plans to follow and then run with the results.  You only have one life to live, make it the best life you deserve and want!

~4-Ever, P

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Young D.E.S.I.R.E.: Devoted time, Eager to please, Special feelings, Intense reaction, Reverent acts, Enthusiastic love
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Young D.E.S.I.R.E.

Oh to be young and foolish again.  Or not.  Being young has its good and bad sides.  The good: youth, energy, physical fitness, and an inconsequential mind of death.  The bad: inexperience, naivety of the world, reckless, and an inconsequential mind to death.  In this installment of the ABCs of encouragement with the #BloggiteBits Campaign, I am going to help you tap into the good parts of Young D.E.S.I.R.E. to bring some of the wonders of youth back into your life: Devoted time, Eager to please, Special feelings, Intense reaction, Reverent acts, & Enthusiastic love.

 
Devoted time: Think back, Dear Bloggites, to your youth (for some not too long ago for others it may seem like a lifetime ago).  Are you there?  Remember when you could devote your time to whatever you were currently interested in?  Be it school, family, relationships, friendships, you were able to provide total devoted time to the interest.  To tap back into your young desire for life, you just have to give your all into whatever activity you are interested in.  If you have a busy life (like most of us), look over your schedule and find a time each day to devote to the passion of choice you are currently involved in.  You will find that allowing yourself time to chase your dreams and passions, you will have a much lighter and stronger desire to embrace life.
 
Eager to please: Remember a moment in your youth where you were smitten with the puppy love that only the young experience?  That eager to please mentality found during the “puppy love” stage in relationships is actually a good thing.  Busy lives (like we all have) tend to prevent you from really getting outside yourself and into the world of others.  To tap back into your young desire and eagerness to please others, all you have to do is respond to someone in a positive way when they ask you for help or even a simple question.  Being eager to please does not mean you allow yourself to be walked all over or taken advantage of by others, it just means you show an eagerness to make someone’s day a little better by providing a simple act of kindness or service.  You will find your outlook on life begin to show a positive view on your day to day activities.
 
Special feelings: The giddiness, the joy, the butterflies, and anticipation of seeing your special someone you had a crush on when you were younger-sweet feelings, indeed!  Most people do not feel that carefree giddiness of emotions as adults, but I challenge you to reach deep inside your soul and reawaken that special feeling again.  To tap back into your special feelings, you just need to remind yourself of the good qualities of the person or people you are interacting with daily.  There is a reason you have the people you have in your life and I bet it is because of some special quality that caused your feelings to attach to each person individually.  Make an effort to focus on the special qualities of each person you are blessed to come into contact with.  Life is a gift to all of us and you will find that your view of people will be less tarnished when you actively look for the special quality of each person.
 
Intense reaction: “Shock! Thrill! Oh MY!” fills your senses throughout your body as a younger you feels that first intense reaction to someone or something.  Oh, beloved youth of yesteryear, wherever have you gone.  Nothing beats the thrill of feeling such strong, overpowering emotions that an intense reaction provides a person.  I am not just referencing a physical attraction sensation, I am referencing the sensations that course through our mind and bodies when dealing with people or situations.  Intense reactions can be a wide range of feelings.  No matter what those feelings were when you were younger, they had an impact in your life.  To tap back into your wide range of intense reactions, you just need to open up your emotional floodgate and feel each sensation.  I am sure the emotional sensations that show up are the ones we usually stomp down as we grow older: awe, joy, giddiness, appreciation, love, hope…all these positive emotions are sadly repressed as a person grows up and has to “act like an adult” in life.  Embrace those long forgotten intense reactions and be prepared to embrace a freer-feeling you.
 
Reverent acts: Reverent acts sound so serious, however, a reverent act as a young child is that of a child believing their parents are all powerful and nothing can defeat them.  I am sure you can think back on a time when you witnessed something spectacular that a parent or grandparent did.  That feeling of overwhelming love and admiration washed over you and you looked at the person who caused those emotions as if they were a fairy tale hero come to life.  The pure intellectual honesty you felt as a child is where you felt the emotions stirred by the reverent acts you witnessed.  To tap back into your reverent acts mentality, you have to open yourself up to the pure intellectual honesty and begin to see all the everyday heroes inside the people you interact with daily.
 
Enthusiastic love: Enthusiastic love was the giddy joy you felt as a child when a person you were enamored with talked to you.  Did you know, Dear Bloggites, that there is a mature kind of enthusiastic love?  Well there is.  To tap back into your mature enthusiastic love, you just have to add a little rose-colored glasses to your mind’s eye when dealing with others.  The mature enthusiastic love is the ability to embrace someone else’s success as if it was your own.  I am a firm believer that we should always build each person we engage with up to help them reach the next level of them on their journey in life.
~4-Ever, P