Posted in Writer Musings

The Struggle Is Real, People!

Hey, All!  It’s me again.  I know, SHOCKING, two blogs back-to-back, and even more shocking, they are not on book reviews!  I am still doing my reviews as I read, but as you can see, with the lack of review posts, that I have not been reading (Bad, P, Goofy JugglingBad!!!).

We all start the new year with grand goals and plans for our life and most of us see those grand goals and plans fizzle as the months go on, well guess what, mine fizzled as soon as it was out of the proverbial gate at the beginning of the year.  I love to write, I love to read, I love books, as you know, Dear Bloggites, and I make plans to do this, and this, and this, and then life says, “Deal with THIS!” and all my plans get scattered to the wind.

Last year, 2017, I promised myself that I would get back to writing my novel I started before my Dad’s Cancer spread and was put on hold for me to take care of him and his needs.  I was blessed to have those last months with my Dad, but I promised myself after he passed that I was going to focus on my writing.  So, Dad passed in August of 2016, and I miss him every freaking day, he was my best friend and my sound board, and I flounder now when I am struggling with things.

I promised myself 2017 would be the year my writing career took off, and I was doing well for the first month and the second month: I was taking writing classes, signing up for writing retreats, writing daily on my novel, etc. and in the third month, my business got busy, so writing was put off due to long days of working my business.  That busyness carried into the fourth month with writing classes going by the wayside along with the writing because my brain was fried from the demands of work.

The fifth month rolls around and I found myself in the hospital with my sister who almost died.  We spent two months in the hospital, her fighting for life, and me fighting for her rights while she could not.  Praise God, the fight won and Four of Seven (my name for her in the Familial Roll Call) came back to us.  She struggled for many months, but she was alive and had all her faculties.

By the time all this took place, I found myself facing the last few months of the 2017 with minimal progress on my writing and all my plans and goals shot to hell and resting where all writing projects go to die.  So, I rallied.  I promised myself that 2018 was going to be the year my writing career took off (sounds like a bad case of ground hog’s day, the movie) and I was going to change my work hours to accommodate my time to allow focus on writing.  I was going to blog regularly, book reviews and writing progress and whatever I want to share, and I was going to start on the classes again and try and give the writing retreat another shot.

Then January 1, 2018 was here, and I was laid up with a severe case of the Flu.  For the first two weeks, I was in bed, barely working, and wishing I was dead just to make the terrible feeling go away.  I recovered from that only to find that my body has decided it wants to start causing me issues with more intense pain aside from my chronic pain I live with from the car accident I had in 2005.  It hurt to move a finger, and I am still struggling with this factor as of today.  But, once again, my plans and goals for my writing career were blown out of the water.

But guess what?  I came prepared with a rope to pull it back in.  Well, sort of.  I am doing writing classes and I am getting so stoked and encouraged that I am feeling the tingle in my fingers and the yearning in my brain to put pen to paper (or finger to keystroke).  Something I honestly have not felt since before my Dad got sick.

See, I can make all these plans and set all these goals, but if the desire and passion are not there, the plans and goals are easy to disregard.  Without passion, any activity or goal becomes work, or for me, just another job after hectic days with my business.

I did not get it until I started listening to all the different authors who were interviewed in the Women In Publishing Summit offered by Alexa Bigwarfe and sponsored by Vivante.  This is not a plug for anyone, however, I do want to thank Alexa for bringing the passion back for the writing mojo I love.  Alexa’s book, Ditch The Fear-Just Write It!, had the greatest statement that spoke to me.  The statement was, “Warning.  This is no ordinary plan.  It is the ass-kicker you need when you want to give up.”

This statement may not mean anything to you, but OH MY GOODNESS, it was like I was slammed in the head with a resounding, “DUH!!!!”  That passionate writing mojo said, “Oh, yeah!  Now we got it!”  I literally heard these two thoughts (heard thoughts…whaaat?) in my head as soon as I read that statement in Alexa’s book.

There will never been the perfect time to have my “writing career take off” – Life Happens.  Life will ALWAYS happen.  I will always have road blocks being thrown up at me when it comes to writing.  Why, you ask?  Because in order to achieve something worthwhile, you will always have challenges testing you and your determination to obtain that achievement.

With this new thought process, I am now embracing my passionate writing mojo and I am just going to do it, no matter what.  Even if I am waking up at 4:30am wide awake after falling asleep only 30-minutes to an hour before, I will write.  I have thrown out the plans and goals and I am just going to write.  It doesn’t matter what I write or even how well I write, as long as I write, I will be organically working those plans and reaching those goals.

Goofy SurprisedIt is so refreshing and freeing to think this way.  I love it!  So, you and I will be having almost daily chats, Dear Bloggite, because I want to share my Journey with you and maybe you will decide to share your journey, no matter what it is, with me, I would love to be there for you and support you in this Journey we call Life.

My challenge to you today: Think about your life.  Is there something you always have an intent to do but somehow never get around to doing it?  What can you do, to make that intent happen?  Are you going to need to throw out the plans and goals, like I had to do or are you going to have to tweak your life a little bit to make it happen?  Let me know down below in the comments. 🙂

~4-Ever, P

Posted in Writer Musings

Domain Rejoice Dimension

The transfer is complete and it only took 6 days. 🙂

hallelujah-squirrelNow what?  I have been researching how to incorporate my blog into my author site since I first shared the Domain Transfer Dance post.  I have the concept down on how to make the sites communicate, but when I go in and try and make it happen, it tells me I am talking Klingon to the site.  Ghay’cha’! (Damn It!).

I listed a few Grand Ideas I have for my site I want to make after the transfer in my mid-wait blog post, Domain Streamline Direction, and until I figure out how to get the system to understand the Klingon coming out of my mouth, I feel like I am just treading water.

I currently have a bunch of tabs open on my browser to continue the search for the magic formula with the magic words that will breathe life into my webpage art, Dear Bloggites.  I shall keep you posted on my journey of this next phase in my writing career and I hope to see you on the flip side! 🙂

~4-Ever, P

Posted in Writer Musings

Domain Streamline Direction

Hello, Dear Bloggites. 🙂 As you can recall, on Thursday, January 19th, I posted about my fun time transferring my domain from Word Press to GoDaddy.  If you missed the post, Domain Transfer Dance, just click on the link and you can be entertained by my pain (of sorts).

There is a reason behind my madness for doing this.  Two of them I listed in my post and am going to expand on these two reasons now.  The first is because I plan on expanding my blog into other areas and want the freedom of the domain at GoDaddy to create it into the image I see in my head (we shall call this one the Expansion Experimentation) and the second is because I am CDO (the proper order of OCD) and do not like having my domains owned between two different providers (we shall call this one the Method to My Madness).

Expansion Experimentation

science-experimentBeing a writer I am learning as much as I can on the craft.  With my current domain being hosted by Word Press, I am limited on how I can tweak the site.  I say ‘limited’ because I cannot for the life of me figure out how to take the different categories of my posts and move them to a different tab to make access easier.  I know there are links to the side that will compile all of those specific posts into one accessible group, but my CDO is not accepting this as a sound set up.  My goal in the end will be a formatted website that satisfies my readers visually and systematically with the format (not to mention the dread CDO monster I suffer with must be satisfied, too).

After transfer is complete (YES, as of this blog post it has been 3.5 days since I gave permission to move the domain and the Word Press email said 5 – 7 days), I plan on testing different site formats to see what appeals to me.  The new site will showcase my writing in a more streamlined way and will help me grow my current Dear Bloggites count bigger.  I adore all my current Dear Bloggites, however, I love to ‘meet’ new people and reach new readers, so the growth is wanted.  The new site will have a fun email feature (once I learn how to do it) that will give the readers more insider tips and glimpses into the world of my novel I am writing as well as up-to-date activities of the UberGoofy World of P.

The Expansion Experimentation will also follow my journey to going from writer to best-selling author (YES, I have BIG DREAMS that will be realized with YOUR HELP).  I will not only continue to provide book reviews on the books I have read but I will start sharing my journey along the way as I take classes, training, and attend conferences that deal with the craft of writing.  In these blog posts, you will receive links to the different items I will talk about and how these items helped or hindered my journey to best-selling author along the way.

I will also start sharing some of the characters from my novel I am writing to help you get a deeper understanding and relationship with these characters on a more personal level.  I hold all my characters close to my heart, so go easy on me, Dear Bloggites, I have a tough skin, but even the toughest of skins still bleed occasionally.  With your feedback about the characters, I will be able to tweak my novel in a more appealing way for you to enjoy.  Once the novel is finished, I will offer beta testing to a few of you.  If you are picked for the beta testing, you will receive a free copy of my novel and provide me constructive criticism and pleasurable praise on what you thought about the book.  Pretty cool, huh?

Method to My Madness

"We're all well aware of the madness, Phipps...where's the method?!Living with CDO (the proper order of OCD) I am always tweaking things in my life to balance and satisfy the method madness.  Having all my websites provided in one specific location will help me to produce more written works for you, Dear Bloggites.  I will no longer have to toggle between locations which wastes time.  I will have the freedom to open up the site and tweak away until my little heart is content.  After the tweaking the writing begins and new, entertaining posts will be shared for you to read.

Last word on Method to My Madness, I really do not mind having this issue with CDO, I am not so far gone with this disorder that it impedes my normal routines, just impedes my need for balance and control.  I can still go out in public and live a normal, albeit, goofy lifestyle that I love.

Okay, Dear Bloggites that is it for now.  I shall continue to update you on my progress from Word Press to GoDaddy and all the fun in between. 🙂

~4-Ever, P

Posted in Writer Musings

Domain Transfer Dance

I have been reading up on blogs daily, Dear Bloggites, to get some insight on writing and writing styles and just because I love to read.  I came across a wonderful blog by Jenny In Neverland about When Your Blog is Getting Too Big for It’s Boots: Getting a New Domain* about, you guessed it, expanding your blog into an actual domain.  Now, I already own my domain goofycorino.com that I purchased through Word Press so my blog UberGoofy World of P has an actual domain name.  This blog post, among many other good tidbits, made me think I need to just go ahead and transfer my ownership from Word Press to GoDaddy because GoDaddy already hosts two other sites I own.

transferToday was the day that I decided to get this transfer taken care of for two reasons: 1. I do plan on expanding my blog into other areas and want the freedom of the domain to create it into the image I see in my head and 2. I am CDO (the proper order of OCD) and do not like having my domains owned between two different providers.  So the transfer of hosting ownership from Word Press to GoDaddy took place and man ‘o man was it a race between providers for me.

I have to purchase the domain transfer through GoDaddy then I have to get authorization from Word Press to transfer said domain after GoDaddy verified I do indeed own goofycorino.com with Word Press.  Then, after all this is verified in the ether-world of the internet communication highway, I had to wait for an email from GoDaddy to authorize the transfer.

This authorization confused me some because I thought I was very clear when I PURCHASED the transfer that I was authorizing it to get moved.  So I wait for the email.  I get an email telling me that the email is invalid (tech put in the wrong email address) and I had to go update the email address before the transfer could take place.  So I go back to GoDaddy and update the transfer all the while the site is informing me the transfer is paused.  After the back and forth on the authorization, I then had to go to Word Press and make my site public for GoDaddy to get the domain information.

pocketwatchBack to Word Press I go, click the icon to make me public (“Yes, indeed, Word Press, I want my information to go public.”) and then I had to wait for my email from Word Press confirming I did truly want my information public.  Once that email was acquired, I toggled back to GoDaddy (yes, I got smart after opening and closing then opening then closing my browser windows up until this point), checked my domain transfer name, requested they resend the authorization code to the correct email address, and guess what?  Yep, you got it!  I waited for another email.

BINGO, BANGO, BONGO the email arrives with the authorization code.  I go back to GoDaddy and input the information all excited that this transfer is taking place.  GoDaddy says, “Thank you.  Your changes may take up to 15-minutes to complete.”  No problem-O, GoDaddy.  I can wait.

I receive three more emails after this.  Two from GoDaddy: terms and agreements email & a verification that my transfer is under way; The third email is from Word Press which informs me that a transfer has been authorized for my goofycorino.com and it can take up to 5 – 7 days to complete….WHAT!!!!!???say-what

After all this time (not too long, but long enough)  I now have to wait for the email telling me that the transfer has been completed so I can go in and link the blog to GoDaddy’s hosting.

Know what I am going to do for the next 5 – 7 days, Dear Bloggites?  I am going to wonder if my goofycorino.com site will go dark and my blog will be hard to view…gotta love progress!!!

~4-Ever, P

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#BloggiteBits-Embrace T.I.M.E.

Embrace T.I.M.E.: Technology is secondary, Interact face-to-face, Mute distractions, Exist in real-time

#BloggiteBits-Embrace Time
Embrace T.I.M.E.

Time.  Such a fleeting thing in our lives today.  We never have enough time to do anything, or do we?  On this installment of the ABCs of encouragement with the #BloggiteBits Campaign, I want everyone to slow down with me and Embrace T.I.M.E. on a different, old school level: Technology is secondary, Interact face-to-face, Mute distractions, & Exist in real-time.

Technology is secondary: Yes, I said it, TECHNOLOGY IS SECONDARY.  In this fun age of technology where we all want to have the latest and greatest new ‘toys’ out there to play with, we have lost sight of our human counterparts.  Embracing time with others does not include staying wired in.  When you are with another, put down the phone, tablet, computer, watch, etc. and look at the person you are with and communicate with your WORDS…LOL  I know, old school, but it is the best way to cultivate relationships you find dear to you or relationships you want to grow.

Interact face-to-face: Yes, I am requesting you SEE the world around you and look it head on.  I know, face-to-face interactions can be awkward, uncomfortable, and downright physically painful if you are not used to it, but get used to it.  Nothing beats seeing the reaction in the eyes and face of the person you are talking to when you tell them great news that you have to share!  It is amazing how simple face-to-face eye contact will change your whole demeanor throughout the day.  Old school talking…egad! Try it, you might like it.

Mute distractions: Distractions come in many forms in our daily lives, from TV to computers to other human beings, distractions are hard to avoid.  When you are spending time with someone, make sure to spend that time in a location with minimal or no distractions to either one of you.  If you cannot ignore the phone vibrating in your pocket, turn it off or put it on silence.  That is a simple distraction that causes lots of issues.  Make sure you are not distracted when engaging someone one-on-one, it will make the visit that much more enjoyable for the two of you.  Long gone are the days of quietude in the world, old school was so much nicer when it came to communicating with others.

Exist in real-time: Yes, real-time, that which is not found in a screen on some computerized device.  Existing in real-time is crucial to maintaining relationships.  So many people today feel better when delved into a game or some social media site, but it does not help real relationships with actual human beings around you.  Be sure when you are spending time with someone you are engaged with them in real-time.  Living, breathing beings are way more fun than those you play with online, even if there is another human being controlling that character you are playing with.  Old school rules, they are hardcore, Baby!

~4-Ever, P