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#BloggiteBits-Young D.E.S.I.R.E.

Young D.E.S.I.R.E.: Devoted time, Eager to please, Special feelings, Intense reaction, Reverent acts, Enthusiastic love
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#BloggiteBits-Young Desire
Young D.E.S.I.R.E.

Oh to be young and foolish again.  Or not.  Being young has its good and bad sides.  The good: youth, energy, physical fitness, and an inconsequential mind of death.  The bad: inexperience, naivety of the world, reckless, and an inconsequential mind to death.  In this installment of the ABCs of encouragement with the #BloggiteBits Campaign, I am going to help you tap into the good parts of Young D.E.S.I.R.E. to bring some of the wonders of youth back into your life: Devoted time, Eager to please, Special feelings, Intense reaction, Reverent acts, & Enthusiastic love.

 
Devoted time: Think back, Dear Bloggites, to your youth (for some not too long ago for others it may seem like a lifetime ago).  Are you there?  Remember when you could devote your time to whatever you were currently interested in?  Be it school, family, relationships, friendships, you were able to provide total devoted time to the interest.  To tap back into your young desire for life, you just have to give your all into whatever activity you are interested in.  If you have a busy life (like most of us), look over your schedule and find a time each day to devote to the passion of choice you are currently involved in.  You will find that allowing yourself time to chase your dreams and passions, you will have a much lighter and stronger desire to embrace life.
 
Eager to please: Remember a moment in your youth where you were smitten with the puppy love that only the young experience?  That eager to please mentality found during the “puppy love” stage in relationships is actually a good thing.  Busy lives (like we all have) tend to prevent you from really getting outside yourself and into the world of others.  To tap back into your young desire and eagerness to please others, all you have to do is respond to someone in a positive way when they ask you for help or even a simple question.  Being eager to please does not mean you allow yourself to be walked all over or taken advantage of by others, it just means you show an eagerness to make someone’s day a little better by providing a simple act of kindness or service.  You will find your outlook on life begin to show a positive view on your day to day activities.
 
Special feelings: The giddiness, the joy, the butterflies, and anticipation of seeing your special someone you had a crush on when you were younger-sweet feelings, indeed!  Most people do not feel that carefree giddiness of emotions as adults, but I challenge you to reach deep inside your soul and reawaken that special feeling again.  To tap back into your special feelings, you just need to remind yourself of the good qualities of the person or people you are interacting with daily.  There is a reason you have the people you have in your life and I bet it is because of some special quality that caused your feelings to attach to each person individually.  Make an effort to focus on the special qualities of each person you are blessed to come into contact with.  Life is a gift to all of us and you will find that your view of people will be less tarnished when you actively look for the special quality of each person.
 
Intense reaction: “Shock! Thrill! Oh MY!” fills your senses throughout your body as a younger you feels that first intense reaction to someone or something.  Oh, beloved youth of yesteryear, wherever have you gone.  Nothing beats the thrill of feeling such strong, overpowering emotions that an intense reaction provides a person.  I am not just referencing a physical attraction sensation, I am referencing the sensations that course through our mind and bodies when dealing with people or situations.  Intense reactions can be a wide range of feelings.  No matter what those feelings were when you were younger, they had an impact in your life.  To tap back into your wide range of intense reactions, you just need to open up your emotional floodgate and feel each sensation.  I am sure the emotional sensations that show up are the ones we usually stomp down as we grow older: awe, joy, giddiness, appreciation, love, hope…all these positive emotions are sadly repressed as a person grows up and has to “act like an adult” in life.  Embrace those long forgotten intense reactions and be prepared to embrace a freer-feeling you.
 
Reverent acts: Reverent acts sound so serious, however, a reverent act as a young child is that of a child believing their parents are all powerful and nothing can defeat them.  I am sure you can think back on a time when you witnessed something spectacular that a parent or grandparent did.  That feeling of overwhelming love and admiration washed over you and you looked at the person who caused those emotions as if they were a fairy tale hero come to life.  The pure intellectual honesty you felt as a child is where you felt the emotions stirred by the reverent acts you witnessed.  To tap back into your reverent acts mentality, you have to open yourself up to the pure intellectual honesty and begin to see all the everyday heroes inside the people you interact with daily.
 
Enthusiastic love: Enthusiastic love was the giddy joy you felt as a child when a person you were enamored with talked to you.  Did you know, Dear Bloggites, that there is a mature kind of enthusiastic love?  Well there is.  To tap back into your mature enthusiastic love, you just have to add a little rose-colored glasses to your mind’s eye when dealing with others.  The mature enthusiastic love is the ability to embrace someone else’s success as if it was your own.  I am a firm believer that we should always build each person we engage with up to help them reach the next level of them on their journey in life.
~4-Ever, P
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#BloggiteBits-Embrace T.I.M.E.

Embrace T.I.M.E.: Technology is secondary, Interact face-to-face, Mute distractions, Exist in real-time

#BloggiteBits-Embrace Time
Embrace T.I.M.E.

Time.  Such a fleeting thing in our lives today.  We never have enough time to do anything, or do we?  On this installment of the ABCs of encouragement with the #BloggiteBits Campaign, I want everyone to slow down with me and Embrace T.I.M.E. on a different, old school level: Technology is secondary, Interact face-to-face, Mute distractions, & Exist in real-time.

Technology is secondary: Yes, I said it, TECHNOLOGY IS SECONDARY.  In this fun age of technology where we all want to have the latest and greatest new ‘toys’ out there to play with, we have lost sight of our human counterparts.  Embracing time with others does not include staying wired in.  When you are with another, put down the phone, tablet, computer, watch, etc. and look at the person you are with and communicate with your WORDS…LOL  I know, old school, but it is the best way to cultivate relationships you find dear to you or relationships you want to grow.

Interact face-to-face: Yes, I am requesting you SEE the world around you and look it head on.  I know, face-to-face interactions can be awkward, uncomfortable, and downright physically painful if you are not used to it, but get used to it.  Nothing beats seeing the reaction in the eyes and face of the person you are talking to when you tell them great news that you have to share!  It is amazing how simple face-to-face eye contact will change your whole demeanor throughout the day.  Old school talking…egad! Try it, you might like it.

Mute distractions: Distractions come in many forms in our daily lives, from TV to computers to other human beings, distractions are hard to avoid.  When you are spending time with someone, make sure to spend that time in a location with minimal or no distractions to either one of you.  If you cannot ignore the phone vibrating in your pocket, turn it off or put it on silence.  That is a simple distraction that causes lots of issues.  Make sure you are not distracted when engaging someone one-on-one, it will make the visit that much more enjoyable for the two of you.  Long gone are the days of quietude in the world, old school was so much nicer when it came to communicating with others.

Exist in real-time: Yes, real-time, that which is not found in a screen on some computerized device.  Existing in real-time is crucial to maintaining relationships.  So many people today feel better when delved into a game or some social media site, but it does not help real relationships with actual human beings around you.  Be sure when you are spending time with someone you are engaged with them in real-time.  Living, breathing beings are way more fun than those you play with online, even if there is another human being controlling that character you are playing with.  Old school rules, they are hardcore, Baby!

~4-Ever, P

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Time Flies When Doing Nothing!!!

Holy Cow!!! Last ‘official’ blog was back in October talking about possibly having a rare cancer…well, for any who read this, I do not have cancer…woo hooo! Surgery went well and I am fully recovered from it and other problems in my world…:)

Since it has been FOREVER since my last post I shall start from there to here and what I did in between. October-cancer scare…….November-nothing…..December-Granddaughter’s birthday (yes I know, I am way too young to have a Grandchild, but what can I say….I am an OVERACHIEVER!!! LOL)….January-Bestie’s Birthday (41…damn she is getting old!)….February-nothing….March-nothing….April-more nothing….May-that brings us up to date!!!

So, as you have just read my life in a nutshell paragraph…Time Flies When Doing Nothing!!! 😉

We are now up to date with what has been going on in my life. Between the nothings I have taken practically a week to two weeks each month to go to Kentucky to see my son, Travis, daughter-in-law, Tori, and my granddaughter, Airabella. Those times were the best and I miss them dearly when I am apart from them.

I am back home in Texas and getting my life going again after all the medical issues I have faced this past year, year and a half. I started back dancing (one week in the past two…not bad) and plan on continuing my progress to every week like I used to do.

I have rejoined Toastmasters (oh yeah…I think a few months in the nothingness I had joined, ran crazy with it and obtained my Competent Communications certificate in three weeks’ time) and am continuing my trend of living again between the nothingness that time gives you while it is flying….yeah, I know what you are thinking Dear Bloggites, the saying is ‘Time Flies When You’re Having Fun’ but unless you are a masochist health issues are not Fun! LOL

So that being said and having re-acquainted ourselves to each other….I will say Ado to You, Dear Bloggites, until next time.

~4-Ever, P